Monday, December 22, 2008



As we finish up 2008 and look forward to 2009, this is the perfect time to review our lives and make changes that will propel us into the future we desire. This process includes dropping old baggage which amongst other things includes people.

There comes a point in life when one realizes who matters, who never did, who won't anymore and who always will. Don't worry about people from the past, there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.

I know losing people you once thought will always be with you is hard. I know because I've been there, but they are gone because they were only meant to be with you for a season.

However, in all your interactions, remember to be kinder than necessary to people because the human heart is weak and as shown in the picture it needs to be handled with care because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, even if it is not obvious to you at the time.

Have a great week!

Monday, December 15, 2008

The Get 'Em Girls Guide to the Power of Cuisine




This is the cookbook to get. This sassy girl’s cookbook was written by Shakara Bridgers, Jenience Isley, and Joan A. Davis. The ladies say that, The Get 'Em Girls Guide to the Power of Cuisine is full of the Perfect Recipes for Spicing Up Your Love Life. I personally tasted their red velvet cup cakes and I must say they are to die for. I don't normally eat frosting but I ate this one. This is more than a cookbook, it's an empowerment tool and these ladies may be up to something. This is what the ladies had to say....

"You know a Get 'Em Girl When you see one...
She has it together: a great job, nice friends, and plenty of style. She juggles a million things at once and is always on the go. But when it comes to love, not all Get 'Em Girls have it figured out.

While some may think it’s a cliche, maybe the way to a lover's heart is still through his stomach. But who has the time to be chained to a stove? Just like having an extra job skill can help you get hired, someone willing to put a little time and energy into a relationship definitely stands out in a crowded dating crowd.

The Get "Em Girls to the Power of Cuisine features over 120 easy and delicious recipes that reflect the authors' southern-girl-in-the-big-city upbringing and will complement every stage of a growing love relationship."

To find out more about the Get 'Em Girls Guides and Girl's Bite Out tour, visit www.getemgirls.com

Saturday, December 13, 2008

Paul Gardener's Memorable Christmas Party

Entertainment attorney, Paul Gardener held a Christmas party at his office in Baltimore city recently. I used to attend his parties when he was working at Piper Rudnick and I know he knows how to throw a party but I hadn’t been to his parties in a while. However, once I got there, I was like Celine Dione, singing, "it’s all coming back to me now." There were many celebrities such as Angel Lola Luv, Douge Fresh, Busy Bee Starski and many others including an up and coming artist named Voice. Paul Gardner is on his way to the top in the entertainment industry. Below are some pictures of the event. Enjoy

First Clas Singles Part V - Final

We must purpose to make the most of our singleness by living in the present, neither the future nor the past. We must be all we can be and celebrate life now. We must be vibrant, alive and full of energy and stop wasting time. It is so easy for singles to fantasize, put all dreams on hold or see singleness as a second class status and think that living begins only when I'm married but Phil 4:11 states "I have learned to be content in whatever state I am." This should be the mindset of all singles.

When you are in a passionate relationship with God, he will carry you through every step, stage and facet of life. Don’t put off living. If you can buy a house, do it, if you can get an education, go for it, if you can change careers or even start a business, now is the time. It's easier now because you don’t have any encumbrances that come with marriage. There as many advantages to being single but we only focus on the advantages of marriage, which for many is only sanctified sex, but there are still 23hrs and 53 minutes left in a day.

What are the advantages of singleness? You have no strings attached. You can relocate and travel the world. This is the time to examine yourself and ask, what can I do while I am single to be the best me I can be. Don’t sacrifice your entire future for the pleasure of the moment by going with someone you know you are not compatible with just to not be single anymore, and don't sacrifice your present for the future either by not moving on with your life while waiting for Mr. or Miss. Right.

By Cheryl Martin
As preached at Set The Captives Free Church
Edited by Susan Majek

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Let's Say Thanks To Our Troops In Iraq

If you go to this web site, www.LetsSayThanks.com you can pick out a thank you card and Xerox will print it and it will be sent to asoldier that is currently serving in Iraq . You can't pick out who gets it, but it will go to a member of the armed services.

How AMAZING it would be if we could get everyone we know to sendone!!! It is FREE and it only takes a second. Wouldn't it be wonderful if the soldiers received a bunch of these? Whether you are for or against the war, our soldiers over there needto know we are behind them.This takes just 10 seconds and it's a wonderful way t o say thank you. Please take the time and please take the time to pass it on for othersto do. We can never say enough thank you's. Thanks for taking to time to support our military!

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Price of Retaliation

People cheat, it’s a fact of life, but the way you respond can cost you as well. Two songs in recent memory that are based on this theme are Before He Cheats by Carrie Underwood and Bust Your Windows by Jazmine Sullivan, so this theme is a universal one. However as these singers influence many people with the lyrics of their songs, they should have some social responsibility towards their listening audience. Songs have the power to influence people and if people go around singing these songs they may act out the words when similar situations arise in their lives.

Carries sings “I dug my key into the side of his Pretty little souped up four wheel drive. Carved my name into his leather seat. I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights. Slashed a hole in all four tires” Not to be outdone, Jazmine’s also sings “I bust the windows out your car. You know I did it 'cause I left my mark. Wrote my initials with the crowbar and then I drove off into the dark”

Not only have they committed crimes but these are obvious admissions of guilt as well. Not too smart! Though these songs are not true for these singers, I know some people might want to follow their words. Not that I’m advocating that anyone do any of these things, but if you do, do not incriminate yourself further by leaving your initials behind or singing about what you did. Also, while you commit the crime, be careful so that you are not hurt in the process of destroying property or when the person retaliates as you both engage in the vicious cycle of an eye for an eye.

I have been in situations where someone did me so wrong. I was hurt and very upset but as a christian I couldn’t do anything because God word states “vengence is mine” so I let go and let God handle the situation and oh my did he! By the time he was through with the people, I knew that nothing I could have done could compare to how he handled the situation. A word is enough to the wise…

Monday, December 8, 2008

Please Recycle!

We all know we only have one earth so we must do all we can to take care of it. One way of doing this is to recycle. Things such as paper, plastic, cans and bottles are especially good for recycling. If there is no recycling program where you live, work, or practise your faith, start one. We are the change agents of the world. If you want change, you must create it. You will find many recyling opportunities on the web.

Please recycle and live the world a better place for the generations coming after us.

Sunday, December 7, 2008

A Word To The Wise: Short Cuts To The Top

The road to the top is a tedious one in any field. It is not for the faint hearted or weak minded. Many people take shortcuts such as sleeping or paying their way to the top. Using this method to achieve desirable ambitions is not new. It is very prevalent in almost every industry, culture or country and in the world at large.

However, I have seen that short cuts don't work. Even if you take it to get to some point quickly, you will be deficient in comparison what you would have learned if you had taken the old fashioned regular route.

Though, I must say that no one wants to do something the hard way when an easier option is available. However, in this kind of scenario which includes dangerous liasons with power brokers, one is at their mercy and that is the problem.

I have learned that I only want to be at GOD's mercy and NOT ANY OTHER HUMAN BEING'S. The heart of man can be wicked and if you are at their mercy they can do anything they want to you.

All in all, there's nothing like good old fashioned hard work to get to the top . If you built something gradually over time, when you get to the top you will be able to stay there which is sustainable success. If you get there via shortcuts the whole thing will crumble and you would have no idea about how to build it back up.

A word is enough to wise!

Consequences Of Making an Ex-loved One Jealous

Hi there,

Today I will address the subject of making a person jealous, specifically an ex-loved one. This could be a spouse, boy or girlfriend or even a “friend with benefits”. It seems in relationshipsthese days each person wants the other to know that they are replaceable. Beyonce's songs such as Irreplaceable or Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It), attest to the popularity of this theme. People think it is cute to replace people in their lives. However in reality at what cost do people make others jealous? Sometimes at the cost of their loved one’s lives.

Jennifer Hudson’s sister paid the price with her mother and her young child’s lives. Her ex-boyfriend killed these people because he was jealous that she was receiving gifts from another man. I assume he was hot when he saw the gift and probably lashed out at her at least verbally and as a woman I believe the words in her response only added fuel to the fire. We must realize that when we are dealing with people, feelings rule so we must always choose our words carefully when speaking to people because we could be using our own actions and words to have someone kill those very dear to us. Though this is an extreme case, it is not the first and probably won't be the last time such an occurence has occured.

A milder case was when I watched in amazement as Tracy Edmunds let her relationship be displayed in the media. She split with Babyface, the man who put her on the entertainment map and started having a high profile affair with Eddie Murphy. Not that she should not have been with Eddie Murphy but she should respect herself, Babyface and her children enough to hide the affair from the media glare considering that both men are huge figures in entertainment and she has two young boys who have to go to school and could be made fun of by their peers too. I was not too surprised when on the Tyra Banks show, Babyface said though it didn’t bother him at first. However, when people started asking him how he felt about his wife dating Eddie Murphy, he started having second thoughts. I thought to myself, why would a woman with sense put the father of her children in such an awkward position? Then the drama that ensued from her “marriage” that didn’t go through with Eddie Murphy occurred and she looked silly. So was it really worth it?

I often watch people talk and act like there are no consequences to their actions. We all need to be kind to others and do all we can to not hurt other people's feelings because we could end up paying the price we didn’t anticipate.

Saturday, December 6, 2008

Michelle Obama's Inaugural Dress

Have you heard talk about Michelle Obama's inauguration dress? Well as you know many established designers will do anything for publicity and now they are vying to dress the first-lady elect for the inauguaration. However, I totally don't agree with her choosing one of the dresses offered by these brand name designers.

To go with the Obama's "Change" theme, in my opinion Michelle should not go with a brand name designer. If not for her position they would never have paid her any attention. Just like her and her husband were a longshot at one point and put in the position by everyday people, she should select an unknown designer who is good and use this as an opportunity to launch the person's design career.

We all see that her husbands emerging cabinet is full of people who are part of the established Washington elite and we really can't blame him for that because he needs the best experienced hands to do that, but for something like the inaugural dress, this is the time to shine the light on an unknown.

Paying for Your Child’s College Education


In many cultures children are sent to college at the parent’s expense which isn’t too bad because it is government subsidized, but in America education is very expensive. I barely made it through college myself, working my way through, paying for some classes and sometimes my employer paid for it. Financial advisor, Tim Maher was on TV giving out advice on financing education recently. Below is what he said.

Parents should save enough for in state college tuition for their children. If the child wants to attend an Ivy League school without a scholarship or even an out of state university, then the child should pay for the difference.

Children should consider spending two years in a community college and then transfer to a university. This is cheaper and will lessen the overall cost of a university educaton and the child will still receive a degree from the university. Even Barak Obama spent 2 years at Occidental College before proceeding Columbia University and then to Harvard.

Parents should consider putting 50% of their savings into a fund like the Maryland Savings fund.

Also, parents should save to ensure that they don’t become a financial liability to their children, which is much worse than not paying for your child’s college education.



A word is enough for the wise...

Want To Be an Entertainer??

We all love singers. They are glamorous and in the lime light so what's not to love. We have notable females such as Beyonce, Madonna, Whitney, Mariah and for their noteworthy male counterparts we have Justin, T.I., Kanye, 50cent etc.

There's so many of them already and everyday all across the world more people want to be in the entertainment industry, making the industry fiercely competitive where only the tough survive. If you watched the Tyra Banks Show recently you watched how some parents were willing to have their underage children subjected to body enhancement surgery to become models and entertainers.

In reality many entertainers have had to sell their souls to become the superstar entertainer that they are. I am a songwriter, so I have witnessed many things happen that I don't participate in and that's probably one of the reasons I'm not a superstar songwriter yet.

If you are starting out in the business, I would recommend that you read two excellent books, Keeping The Faith by Faith Evans (Biggie Smalls wife) and Life With My Sister Madonna (by Madonna's brother). These are two excellent books that will give you insight into what really goes into the making of a star and the life of an established star. To be forwarned, is to be forarmed. Good luck!

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

A Poem: Jogbo

This is a poignant poem recited in the Yoruba movie, Agogô Eewo, which roughly translated into English means The Forbidden African Agogô bell, a percussion instrument made of metal and struck with a wooden striker.

The movie is by master movie maker, Tunde Kelani, who is known for the rich Yoruba culture he infuses into his movies and this one is no exception.

He actually out does himself in this movie. He is one of the few movie makers ensuring that our rich Yoruba culture is preserved. From the rich Yoruba history he showcases, to the eloquent poetic oratory of his characters, not to mention the beautiful scenery he films in, his films definitely put him in a league of his own.

The movie is based on a mythical place named Jogbo, but we all know Jogbo is just another name for the West African country of Nigeria, which has been ravaged by leaders who loot the coffers and collude with foreigners and multinational companies to rob their nation and fellow citizens blind, and stash their ill gotten gain abroad in the western world but in the end the pay for their sins.

The movie is translated into English, so if you don’t speak Yoruba and have the opportunity to watch the film, feel free to do so. You will definitely not be disappointed. The poem, pictures of Agogos and maps of Nigeria are included to make the poem come alive. Enjoy!

Jogbo

Olojumeji ashe ese odo - A two faced person will be successful at the river bank

Olojumeji ashe Kaduna - A two faced person will be successful in Kaduna ( A state in Northern Nigeria)

Bi eniyan oloju mejila - If a person doesn’t have twelve faces

Kole she ilu Jogbo - The person can’t be successful in Jobgo

Elenu meji ashe Ibadan - A person who speaks through both sides of their mouth will be successful in Ibadan ( A major city in Oyo state, Nigeria)

Elenu meji ashe Eko - A person who speaks through both sides of their mouth will be successful in Lagos ( The former capital of Nigeria , a major city and state in western Nigeria)

Bi eniyan oni enu mejidilogun – If a person doesn’t speak through both sides of their eighteen mouths

Ko le she ilu jogbo – The person can’t be successful in Jogbo

Olowo meji ashe ekiti – A double dealing person will be successful in Ekiti (A former city and now a state in western Nigeria)

Olowo meji ashe egba – A double dealing person will be successful in Egba (A city in Ogun state in western Nigeria)

Bi eniyan oni owo merin lelogun – If a person doesn’t deal in twenty four ways

Kole she ilu Jogbo – The person can’t be successful in Jogbo

Jogbo bi Orogbo – Jogbo like bitter kolanut

Jogbo re, bi Oro - This Jogbo, like the dreaded Oro Masquerade (A masquerade which doesn’t make public appearances unless something grave occurs and is a taboo to be seen by women)

Tunde Kelani
(Writer, cinematographer and producer)

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Easy Recipe: Maple Soy Roasted Chicken

Ingredients:

• 1 Whole Chicken
• 2 tbsp Soy Sauce
• 1 tbsp Fresh Grated Ginger
• 2 Cloves
• ¼ cup Maple Syrup
• 1 tsp Dijon Mustard
• 2 Sprigs Fresh Thyme, Chopped
• 2 Scallions, Finely Minced
• 1 tbsp Vegetable Oil, Salt, Freshly Cracked Pepper

Cooking Instructions:

• Cut chicken & season with salt and fresh cracked black pepper to taste

• In a medium bowl combine ingredients & stir well

• Add the chicken to the bowl and toss well, covering in the mixture

• Chicken can be cooked on the grill at medium high temperature until crisp and evenly browned on all sides (3-4 minutes per side) or seared in hot skillet with 1 tbsp vegetable oil for 1-2 minutes per side then transferred to a 375 degree oven for about 8-10 minutes.

Monday, November 24, 2008

Saint Theresa's Prayer



May today there be peace within.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be confident knowing you are a child of God. Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.

Saint Theresa is known as the Saint of the Little Ways, meaning she believed in doing the little things in life well and with great love. She is represented by roses. May everyone who receives this message be blessed.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Wanna Be a Model?

Are you a person of color and watched America’s Next Top Model and said, “I have the height and figure, I can do that.” Well I’m here to help you! Below are organizations looking for models. Please use Margaret Haule, as your referral

Modern Bride Magazine "Annual Modern Bride of the Year Contest". Apply at http://www.brides.com/modernbride/modernbrideoftheyear.

Ford Models www.fordmodels.com/smowapply/

Hawaiian Tropics www.hawaiiantropicmodels.com/site.php/spgs/read/contestant_registration/

Hollywood Poker is looking for modeling reps. modelrep@hollywoodpoker.com

Fight Girls Clothing line models@OfficialFightGirl.com Request an application & handbook.

Modified magazine Apply at http://www.modified.com/modifiedgirls/mg_form.html

Wilhemina Modeling Agency Mother//Daughter Cover Model Search. Apply at www.wilhelmina.com/family_circle/

Datwon Thomas Editor in Chief of XXL & KING Magazines which features "Eye Candy" can be reached at Datwon@Harris-Pub.com

Marcus Blassingame is the Editor in Chief of Black Men magazine and SSX magazine. He can be reached at Mblass@SSXMag.com and Mblass@TodaysBlackWoman.com.

Sandy Vasceannie, the Publisher of Smooth Magazine and Jewel Magazine. Her fax is 212 334-4902 & email Sandy@smoothmag.com

Hip Hop Weekly email address for submissions is Hiphopweekly@gmail.com.

Sean Cummings founder and editor of "Show Magazine". His email address for submissions is Sean@CummingsMedia.com

Ebony/Jet magazine "Jet Beauties of the Week". Submit two current photographs of yourself, preferably in a two-piece bathing suit, taken against a plain background with few distractions. Indicate the name and address on the back. Forward to the attention of: JET Beauty of the Week,
820 S. Michigan Ave.
Chicago, IL 60605

Taneish Leslie, Publisher, of Jadore Magazine. Submit your photos to Models@JadoreMag.com

Will Walters, Publisher, Monarch magazine info@monarchmagazine.com

Woodley Germain Editor, Rap Fanatic Magazine. Submit photos to Info@Rapfanatic.com with the subject line "Model Submissions".

Jason Griffin, Fashion Editor, Rime Magazine. You can submit photos to him at JGriffin@RimeMagazine.com or Info@RimeMagazine.com with subject line "Model Submissions".

Laurence Christian, Editor, Liquid Magazine. Submit photos to him at Editorial@Liquid-mag.com

Shabazz, Editor in Chief of As Is Magazine. Submit photos to him at Shabazzasis@Sbcglobal.net

Damola Idowu, Editor, Owners Illustrated magazine. Submit photos Pub@OwnersIllustrated.com

Tiffany Chiles, Editor, Don Diva magazine. Must meet the criteria: Submit@DonDivamag.com

Julie Beverly, Editor, Ozone Magazine. JB@Ozonemag.com for modeling submissions.

Mykose Hufana, Editor, Fresh Coast magazine. Submit photos to Models@FreshCoastmagazine.com

Ernst Pretto, is the Editor of Urban City magazine. Submit photos at Models@UrbanCityMagazine.com

Friday, November 21, 2008

TGIF & Finish Up Mode!

Many of life's failures are people who didn't realize how close they were to success when they gave up. - Thomas Edison

What ought to be can be when you have the will to make it so. - James W. Rouse

The two sentences above keep me going even when I don't feel like it. This year has gone by so fast and I can't believe it will end soon. As the year draws to a close, I am frantically trying to finish up things I haven't completed before the new year rolls around. Not that I'm having much luck but my consolation is that each day, I do my very best and that is all that can be required of me.

I am very proud of myself because I try and never give up. Even if I fail, I know that I'm better off than not having tried at all.

Have a great weekend!

Thursday, November 20, 2008

First Class Singles IV

Jesus meeting the lady in Samaria at Jacob’s well is an important concept because it showcases how he meets us where we are. He engages a woman according to tradition he should not interact with, in conversation. He then asks her to go and bring her husband and she says she has none. Then he tells her about herself. It is obvious that she is needy because she’s been married 5 times. She probably thought “I can feel good about myself if I change men”, that’s why she was living with the 6th man who she wasn't even married to.

Jesus is saying to you today, you’re looking for love in all the wrong places. Drink of me, you won’t thirst anymore. Isaiah 54:5 says, 'Your maker is your husband' and God is a jealous God who is unwilling to share us with any rival. He wants us for himself. To whom or to what are you married? Does your maker have your undivided love? Or does your church or your fellowship have first place in your heart? Or are you married to your career, or your work, or your ministry?

God is saying, I’ll fill that cup. You won’t need a man, clothes, shoes, alcohol, drugs or pornography, if you drink of me. I will give you complete acceptance. You need to shut down the computer, computer games and TV and anything else that grabs your attention and spend time in my word. Let me fill that void, so you can be a whole person, that’s why I died on the cross. He came so that we may have life. As a first class single, people should be attracted to us because we are vibrant and full of life.

We all have so many issues we looking for people to solve and baggage for people to offload. Everyone who is not a christian is doing that, so as a christian you can't be that way. We must be the opposite, a problem solver and a baggage reliever to non-christians. That's how we will look different to them and they will want what you have, which is God in our lives. Every time we experience rejection in a relationship we run back to God asking him to make us a whole person. We shouldn’t be people running from one relationship to another and not healed or having people use and abuse us just so we are "with someone". We should say “Lord I need to stay at your feet” and stay there till he sends the right one who will appreciate and nurture us.

By Cheryl Martin
Edited by Susan Majek

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

A Pastor With Guts Serves Food For Thought!

When Minister Joe Wright was asked to open the new session of the Kansas Senate, everyone was expecting the usual generalities, but this is what they heard:

"Heavenly Father, we come before you today to ask your forgiveness and to seek your direction and guidance. We know Your Word says, 'Woe to those who call evil good,' but that is exactly what we have done.

We have lost our spiritual equilibrium and reversed our values.

We have exploited the poor and called it the lottery.

We have rewarded laziness and called it welfare.

We have killed our unborn and called it choice.

We have shot abortionists and called it justifiable.

We have neglected to discipline our children and called it building self esteem.

We have abused power and called it politics.

We have coveted our neighbor's possessions and called it ambition.

We have polluted the air with profanity and pornography and called it freedom of expression.

We have ridiculed the time-honored values of our forefathers and called it enlightenment.

Search us, Oh, God, and know our hearts today; cleanse us from every sin and set us free.


Amen!"

The response was immediate. A number of legislators walked out during the prayer in protest. In 6 short weeks, Central Christian Church, where Rev. Wright is pastor, logged more than 5,000 phone calls with only 47 of those calls responding negatively. The church is now receiving international requests for copies of this prayer from India , Africa and Korea .

Commentator Paul Harvey aired this prayer on his radio program, 'The Rest of the Story,'and received a larger response to this program than any other he has ever aired.

With the Lord's help, may this prayer sweep over our nation and wholeheartedly become our desire so that we again can be called 'one nation under God.'

We should remind ourselves that as Ronald Reagan said 'If we ever forget that we're one nation under GOD, then we will be a nation gone under.'

Sunday, November 16, 2008

2008 Computer Security Institute (CSI) Conference at the Gaylord in DC


On Monday Nov. 17: 11:00 am-5:00 pm and Tuesday,Nov. 18: 11:00 am-6:00 pm, The Computer Security Institute (CSI) Conference wil be held in DC. It is the largest information security conference on the East Coast and is also the only security conference expressly assembling experts to challenge the status quo.

CSI 2008 features a comprehensive program, covering security from both a management and technical perspective because in the real-world, security needs to be part of the business plan. CSI 2008 promises to go beyond the current, accepted thinking, and focus on what's next, on how to change security from being constantly reactive, to actually giving security professionals the upper hand.

CSI 2008 is designed for information security and IT professionals of all levels: executives, directors, managers and staff, and anyone needing to gain an understanding of both the technical aspects of security, and how security fits into the overall business plan.

Visit http://www.csiannual.com/ for more information.

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Saturday, November 15, 2008

~Entrepreneurship~

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Entrepreneurship: From startup dreams to successful ventures, learn to turn your dreams into reality and create opportunities for yourself.  Whether your innovation is in the idea stage - or you want help pitching it to investors-or your established business needs more tools and strategies to induce growth, you can pick the pace and choose among various paths - but the destination remains the same -development of yourself and your ideas.
You may need business coaching; best path decisions and help through obstacles and detours but keep moving forward, and you will soon see yourself crossing the line.

Be encouraged. Regardless of where you are, you can get there from here! For more information on being an entrepreneur, visit

Friday, November 14, 2008

First Class Singles Part III

Many of us want God’s stuff but not him. We want his gifts but we don’t want him, the giver. He says, I want you to want me for me because all that you need to relieve your baggage, issues and the vacuum and longing all of us were born with can be fulfilled in me. Some of us were verbally and physically abused and we keep rewinding the mental tape. Some of us were told "You’re not as pretty as your sister or you’ll never be anything", so we have low self-esteem. We are broken people and before we get married we should seek wholeness.

Why? Because it takes good eggs to make an omelet. If one egg is rotten, you have a rotten omelet. Don’t look for your other half. You shouldn’t want half a man or woman. When you come to someone with your entire baggage saying “take me” they will run in the opposite direction or use you and cause you more baggage. Men can spot a needy woman a mile off. Being needy you are like a neon light and everyone says here she comes. You unknowingly send signals shouting fill my cup, fill my cup, and tell me how wonderful I am! That’s why some women give up sex in hopes of getting love and the man is saying he loves you, just to get sex. God says no, passionately pursue me; spend time everyday reading my word. That’s my love letter to you. I will affirm you and tell you are fearfully and wonderfully made. I will not use your body and go to the next woman.

God says, “Your issues, insecurities and lack of wholeness, are why I died”. Col 2:10says we are complete in him. This is how we understand our purpose. You will know the reason why he created you. Also, when we read the word of God and we are told things that don’t line up with it, we know immediately and we can reject it. You may have told me I am a mistake, but that’s not what God said. He said before the foundation of the world, I knew you and had your plan. I scheduled everyday of your life. I have seen every tear and rejection. I still have plans for you. Passionately pursue God. Wake up in the morning with God on your mind, not a man, woman or even a career. Have God running through your system. The more passionately we pursue him the more we will know our purpose and be wiser singles dating.

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Wedding Blues!!

Thanks giving has come and gone and Christmas will soon be here. From now till valentine's day next year, it will be marriage proposals galore. Closely following that is the frenzy of preparing for the wedding of a lifetime. Often people desire to out do every other wedding they have ever attended but do you know the average price of a Wedding?

Well weddings cost much more than most people think. To have a marvelous, much talked about wedding; you will definitely pay the price. However, when it is time to pay the piper, you might quickly develop a financial wedding hangover which can lead to problems with the new union.

A glamorous wedding is great if you can afford it but it has nothing to do with the quality of the marriage relationship. Consider this, the number one cause of marital failure is finances. Think twice before you splurge on that wedding if you really can't afford it because you will have to pay for it later !

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Dental Hygiene Is A Necessity Not A Luxury!


A Healthy Smile

Below are the steps to keep your teeth healthy:

Brush twice daily for two minutes making sure the brush bristles clean along the gum line.
Brushing before sleeping is the most important time.
Brush the tongue when brushing by placing the toothbrush at the back of the tongue and move forward.
Change your toothbrush every three months.
Floss each time you eat to scrape away bacteria and food particles from the sides of the teeth.
Rinse with Listerine or Crest Pro Health for 30 seconds after brushing.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Essence Young Women's Leadership Conference in DC

On Nov 8th Essence Magazine held a leadership conference which was an empowering day of workshops to give participants a competitive edge as they launch or steer careers at the DC Convention Center. There were great panelists and Essence Editor-in-Chief, Angela Burt-Murray was on hand to encourage, inspire and share as well. Below is a detailed recap of the event.

The first session, You Inc: Market Yourself for Success was with Amy Dubois Barnett, Rhonda McLean, Dee Marshall, Denna Singleton and moderated by Candice Frederick. Panelists reinforced that you are you are your own biggest advocate. They shared with participants that they possess the basic ingredients for success—negotiating skills, education, talent and drive to be an asset to any team. The key is making potential employers know that you are the right person for the job by selling yourself efficiently. Valuable insights were also offered on how to create a practical blueprint for success.

The second session, Set for Life: Your Fast Track to Financial Control was with Jason Calhoun, Harrine Freeman, Ionnie McNeil, Lynn Richardson and moderated by Tanisha Sykes. They shared with participants how to navigate working an entry-level job, paying for college and dealing with day-to-day expenses in a challenged economy, especially when the reality is not the lifestyle a degree was supposed to bring. The panel of financial experts provided practical, savvy strategies on how to take control of your finances and fund your dreams.

Real Life 101: Lessons Learned Outside of the Classroom was with Shante Bacon, Capricon Clark, Shanti Das, Amy DuBois Barnett and moderated by Rhonda McLean. They shared with participants that college only prepares you with basic skills and information to enter the job market, but unique qualities make you stand out at work. In a candid dialogue, the panel shared lessons learned on the job that have taken them from interns and assistants to the corner office which ultimately is to add value to your environment.

Sex, Love & Intimacy: Creating Healthy, Fulfilling Relationships was with Lauren Lake, Dr. Adrea Pennington and moderated by Demetria Lucas. They shared with participants that thought it's hard to know how to navigate love, especially when there are so many influences—peers, media, family—bearing down on you, it can still be done. Important skills were shared with the key being knowledge of what you want, educating yourself on how to stay healthy and happy, and not being afraid to talk about your needs.

Be the Boss: Embrace Your Inner Entrepreneur was with an accomplished panel of entrepreneurs including Shante Bacon, Jasmine Lawrence, Ionne McNeil, Tracy Press, Tina Wells and moderated by Tanisha Sykes. They shared with participants how to turn big ideas into businesses and turn passion into profit.

Having It All: Your Life on Your Terms was with Lauren Lake, Dee Marshall, Lola Ogunnaike, Dr. Andrea Pennington and Candice Frederick. They shared with participants on how though you are out of school and ready to set the world on fire, the path to goals may not be as straightforward as thought, but you can stay track, compromise or confront situations, pursue dreams, overcome challenges and remain true to yourself.

Making Your Voice Heard: You Can Make a Difference with Valeshia Butterfield, Quin Conyers, Rahama Wright and moderated by Jeffrey Johnson. They shared with participants that knowing there is a problem is the first step in creating change or making a difference and how to take action. Knowing what you should be doing, what you are passionate about, and practical tools and strategies for becoming an effective advocate for change were shared.

There were many giveaways from sponsors, the Sallie Mae Fund recognized five outstanding women who were selected from more than 1,000 applicants to each receive a $5,000 Generation Next college scholarship and recording artists, Suai and Brandon Hines performed. Look out for Suai’s album spring 2009.

It was definitely worth the $35 registration fee. Make sure you attend next year! Some pictures from the event are below. Picture 1: Vanessa Simmons Pic 2:Angela Simmons both of Pastry Pic 3:Angela Simmons, Angela Burt-Murray ESSENCE Editor-in-Chief and Vanessa Simmons.



Monday, November 10, 2008

Top 10 Tips For Planning and Paying For College


1.Make the most of high school academics and activities. Select courses that meet college admission requirements. Develop your interests and talents through additional activities.
2.Find a college that fits you. Use the internet, guidebooks, brochures, campus visits, and college fairs to find schools that meet your academic and personal needs.
3.Take appropriate standardized tests such as the SAT and/or the ACT which are usually required for college admissions. Use a test prep book or online practice tools to get ready.
4.Familiarize yourself with the college application process. Make a list of all deadlines and required recommendations, essays, transcripts and test scores.
5.Investigate scholarship opportunities early. Scholarships are based on a variety of criteria and can be found on the internet, in scholarship guides, and through sponsoring groups.
6.Beware of scholarship scams. No one can guarantee you a scholarship in advance, and you should never have to pay a fee for scholarship searches.
7.Understand college costs. In addition to tuition, room and board; you also will need to cover fees, books, transportation and personal expenses.
8.Research your eligibility for federal and state financial aid. Two-thirds of all full-time undergraduate students receive some kind of financial aid, so odds are you are eligible too.
9.Complete the FAFSA annually in January. This is required to be considered for federal student aid. College, state agencies, and some scholarships also require it.
10.Explore student and parent loans. Borrow only what you absolutely need. Start with federal student loan programs which usually provide the best terms.

Also, remember the P rule which states, "Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance."

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Barbie & Walmart Partnering To Benefit Local Hospitals


On Nov 8th 2008 from noon - 3pm Wal-Mart hosted the Give Back with Barbie Cares Program where children bring in a used Barbie doll to the store. For each doll received Barbie will donate a new doll to a local hospital. A live Barbie was available to take pictures with the little princesses who showed up for the event. Below is a picture of some friends and I with the Barbie at the Dundalk, MD location. For more information please visit http://barbie.everythinggirl.com/barbiecares/

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Obama’s Win: Barack Obama seen through the eyes of a foreign black female.

It finally happened! The jubilation was incomprehensible and the energy beyond words. As a black woman, I never thought I would live to see a black man become the president of the US. It is a new day in America. With Barack Obama’s win, America made history by voting in a colorblind manner. His election as the 1st African-American and 44th president has electrified the nation with a new sense of optimism and hope. By winning states that had previously voted Republican, his win has redrawn the political map. Change has indeed come to America and the nation has taken a giant step toward the creation of a more perfect union. His election to the presidency of the US is significant because it demonstrates that personality, preparation and persistence can propel anyone to achieve their personal goals.

His win inspired me to desire to know more about the man who is now the president elect with such a short political career. Who is Barack Obama and what transformed this man from his humble beginnings to become the president? Obama’s journey is a testament to success through fate, hard work and the making of good choices. His optimism is a reflection of his personality and the decisions his parents made would ultimately provide the ideal background for a presidential candidate in the year 2008. He is the product of an African father and an American mother. This makes him part of two races but void of the slave legacy. He’s biracial but in America he is called “black” thanks to the “one drop rule” instituted during slavery, where a person with any black ancestry, regardless of how remote, is labeled as black. Though some biracial people feel being part of two races has negatively affected them, Obama’s being biracial is an asset because to many people he is not defined by race. His looks and features allow him to blend in with many ethnicities and nationalities in the US and around the world. He inherited both biblical and Muslim names, Barack and Hussein, a combination which implies camaraderie between the sometimes opposing Christian and Muslim religions. At age two his parents separated and subsequently divorced, with his father seeing him only once more before he died. He didn’t grow up understanding what African or America’s “black” culture was because he was not exposed to these concepts. He was raised by his mother and grandparents who are all white, making him no different than a white boy with a tan. His mother remarried and worked in diverse countries, which led him to be raised in dissimilar parts of the world, making him “worldly” and thus open to different perspectives, experiences and cultures. Like many in America today, he has been through having an absent parent, his parents’ divorce, living with a step-parent, in a house headed by a woman and with his grandparents. Emotionally he has walked the path and knows the pain many people are going through in today’s America because he has experienced it himself.

His personality, sculpted by his experiences, makes him a relatable figure. He has a methodical approach and an inclusive spirit that puts many people ease with him. His upbringing and education enable him to efficiently interact with people of any race or class. He followed in his father’s footsteps in his decision to attend Harvard, one of the most prestigious law schools in the country, making him an Ivy Leaguer. He was selected as the president of the Harvard Law Review because other students believed he would be fair. He served in public interest capacities, even though he was swimming in law school debts he would have loved to have paid off. Unlike many African American men who conveniently choose to believe that they can’t have a nuclear family because they were not raised in one, he chose to create and live the family life he didn’t have while growing up. Again, contrasting others in his shoes who would have selected a “fair skinned eye candy doormat trophy wife” to fit the mantra that “the wife must be lighter than the husband” image often projected in the black media or that he should have “married up” into an old money country club Caucasian family that a Harvard-educated Caucasian wife could provide to advance his social and career goals, he married an educated, dark skinned, and intelligent woman from humble beginnings who is his equal but obviously didn’t come with a dowry. If Obama had done it differently he may not have been viewed as positively by many in both the Caucasian and African American communities. He is an educated, intelligent, good-looking black married man with two children living in a nuclear family, a model that is fast disappearing in America today. Obama’s profile shatters the negative stereotypes of black men, which in many cases are justified. Obama is a nuclear family man who does not appear to have extramarital affair skeletons in his closet. This leads me to believe there are still some good black men left out there. He seems squeaky clean, although such accusations tarnished the images of some who paved the way for him. Obama has played the hand he was dealt remarkably well and made lemonade out of his lemons. I wish others learn from him.

His campaign for the presidency was non-threatening to any race. By his nature he seems organized and self-contained. He likes to control events; events don’t control him. Like a seasoned entertainer, he has the ability to project himself brilliantly. He doesn’t do identity or victim politics or anything else. Obama is a genuine intellectual who is comfortable in his own skin. He’s a regular guy who is not burdened with being a Washingtonian because he hasn’t been there for very long. He is charming and can be tough, which is what he needs to be to get things done. He embodies what America is: a melting pot of races and a place where success can be achieved by striving for one’s personal best. Before Obama’s win, how did the rest of the world see America lately? Some might say as a big bully. This is not too far-fetched. The Iraq war is perceived by many to be part of America’s expansionism. The Foreign Minister of Russia said in an interview, “We want the US to be first among equals. We don’t want to be a rival superpower but we want America to consult with, ask and hear us.” Obama is the needed redemptive figure in American politics, the soothing balm to a hurting nation and the repairer of America’s damaged image to the rest of the world. He is aware of the weight on his shoulders as the soon-to-be leader of the free world.

Many say as far as ego and arrogance are concerned, both McCain and Obama in many ways are similar. However, one is young, vibrant and idealistic while the other is older, seasoned and battle-tested. Though this was the largest age difference between two candidates for president, it was not just a competition of the strength of youth versus the wisdom of age. Obama was the one with the steady head and hand who displayed that he understood what was occurring in the nation and the world, and had the confidence to turn around the current depressing tide. The opportunity created by the perfect storm of the negative economic situation currently being experienced, formed by the eight years of the Bush administration, created the opportunity for the ideal rescue personified by Barack Obama. Many Americans were in an “anything but this economic mess” mode and Obama’s idea of change propelled him to the White House. He probably would not have gotten elected any other way, so he knew his role was that of damage control and reconstruction.

Barack Obama is not a lone warrior. He benefited from the fruits of the labor of those who helped him win this election -- African American leaders of the past such as Rosa Parks, Malcolm X, Martin Luther King Jr., Shirley Chisholm, Jesse Jackson, Alan Keyes, Carol Moseley Braun, Al Sharpton and all the others who came before him. Some of them promoted a visible African American candidacy for the president as early as 36 years ago. He was the new kid on the block. He is not from some well-known or politically significant African American family such as the King family. Initially, I thought he needed more experience, that he needed to be more seasoned; however, he was sufficiently prepared. He attended Ivy League schools, he’s a trained lawyer, he’s well traveled, and he did public interest work. He is as qualified as anyone else for the position. He is definitely not an affirmative action president. I once said when he decided to run that I hope he made the decision by himself after being isolated because it seemed he was being pushed to run by others. While that may be true, I believe others recognized his servant leadership spirit and encouraged him to run. It is said that he realizes how much people are hurting and he has a sense of responsibility, often worrying about disappointing people. These are the traits of a good leader. Ultimately, there is no set amount of training for the presidency. It is a job which requires on-the-job training and he won’t do it alone; he’s already assembling his team. He did the right thing, running when he did, because one doesn’t necessarily get another chance at such a great opportunity and one can see that through the long campaign that he has become presidential.

Right now an overwhelming majority feels good about Barack Obama’s win but people need to feel good about themselves as well, yet with the health, employment, energy, economic, credit and education crises occurring, how is that possible? How can the thousands of black men, potential Barack Obamas sitting in jails because they chose to go the wrong route or unemployed people facing foreclosure, feel good about themselves and what lies ahead? The answer is hard work, hard work and more hard work for each and every one. Obama has set the standard. No one, minorities included, has any excuse for not attaining their personal best now. His story shows that any goal is achievable if one is ready to do what it takes. Get a good education, work hard, be focused and stay the course. Even his errors on the path to the presidency show that mistakes can be made and recovered from without derailing one’s destiny. His audacity of hope and the faith to work towards a goal are remarkable. Now that he has won, as he has said, “the road to America’s recovery is long and the climb is very steep.” No one should expect miracles because things cannot change overnight, in one year or even in one term. There will be set-backs and false starts and he won’t be able to solve every problem. He will be challenged in many ways and from different directions because of the catastrophes occurring, but as a collective repair force, Americans are up to the task.

America is the mecca for democracy, freedom, and individualism, and Obama’s journey, is a great testament to the fact that there are no barriers and anything is possible. The world is fascinated with and charmed by Obama’s spirit because of the new, reinvigorated America he represents. The choice of Barack Hussein Obama as president, a man with what is perceived by many to be a Muslim middle name, is amazingly forgiving of the US in a post 9/11 world. He is the best America has to offer in terms of inclusiveness, diversity and democracy. Yes, Obama can do much by executive order and he will be backed by a stronger Democratic majority in Congress, but Republicans need not fear him, even with his appointing Rahm “the bulldog” Emanuel as his Chief of Staff because he said, “I will listen, especially when we disagree.” What else can one ask for in a leader? This is a time for construction and reconstruction. This is a time to remember the immortal words of John F. Kennedy: “Ask not what your country can do for you but ask what you can do for your country.” Barack Obama is a man and president-elect whose heart and mind are in the right place. He has good judgment and this is the time to work together for the common good of America and restore its waning glory. What did I learn from Barak Obama’s story of and his recent election? I learnt that personality, preparation and persistence are equalizers that level life’s playing field and can make the American dream become a reality.

Friday, November 7, 2008

TGIF!


Thank God it's Friday but are you all stressed out, tired & running on empty? With the hectic lives we live stress can build up before you know it.

Here as some symptoms: you are always late, you forget what day it is, you do everything more than usual such as eating & drinking. You are overly multitasking, you don't finish anything, you lose your patience easily, you cry for no reason, you are always anxious, your palms are sweaty, your heart is racing, you feel nervous, you live on junk food, your morale is low & you keep asking yourself if you are ok.

To get back on track:
Plan ahead, don't sweat the small stuff, eat, sleep, excercise & take better care of yourself, relax, breath deeply, meditate & ask for help.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

First Class Singles Part II

Number 1

Passionately pursue God, not a person. Why do I say pursue God passionately, relentlessly and single-mindedly? It is because he is the source of authentic life, joy and unconditional and lasting love. Each one of us has a deep longing to be loved unconditionally. If a woman is honest she will say “I want someone to just love me for me, to just want me”. We want someone to love us for whom we are. There is nothing wrong with that desire, it was God who placed that void and longing in our hearts because he is a God of relationship but he wants us to put first things first, him.

Before God created Eve, he had a relationship with Adam first. Many of us are running from relationship to relationship looking in all the wrong places to fill the void. There are people who are addicted to illicit relationships, food, drugs, alcohol, pornography and many other things because they are trying to fill a void or having a high met. However only God can fill this void. That’s why Jesus said the greatest commandment is to love the Lord with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind. All means with every fiber of your being. What should define you as a man or woman is your relationship with God. Then you will know yourself and yourself worth. To passionately pursue God means spending time with him on a daily basis to the point when he becomes the first thing on your mind at all times.

I saw the need for this because I was in a relationship where I was crazy about this guy. I lost my sense of self-esteem in this relationship and it didn’t work out. I went to bed and woke up with him on my mind. I refused to believe that he was not my package, I said devil you are a liar, and I worked it every way I knew. Did you know someone can be saved and still not for you? I said God, I know this is it and when I finally accepted the reality, that if someone is for me God will tell the person as well as me because God doesn’t do a half job I was able to come to my senses. I said God what happened? He said you know what, you idolized him. I said oh my God, when I read about idols in the Old Testament I simply thought of idols in terms of graven images but he said no, that's not true. Anything you pursue, that you want more than me is an idol. He said, I am a jealous God. If you want your business to succeed, a mate, a house, a car more than God, you are idolizing those things and he’s not having it. God wants you to pursue him.

This is not just for women it is for men as well. David, a man after God’s own heart said in Psalm 63 my flesh, my body longs for you. David desired an intimacy with God more than anything. What do you pursue want in life more than anything? If it’s not God, you are not passionately pursuing him. We don’t understand that the more we pursue God the more he is with us in every facet of our lives, protecting, nurturing and guiding us in the life path he has chosen for us.

By Cheryl Martin
Edited by Susan Majek

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Pedestrian Safety!

Photo Credit: Dan Heller Photography

Pedestrian safety begins with you!
You never know who or what is behind the wheel driving the vehicle.
So, always walk defensively and carefully put your best and safest foot forward!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

A journey of a thousand miles, begins with one step.....

Everyday it seems I try hard to do so much but at the end of the day when I see how little I have actually accomplished, I feel disappointed in myself and discouraged. However, I have to remind myself of the words of wisdom which states, Don’t judge each day by the harvest, judge it by the seeds you sow. Even the completion of the biggest project is made up of little projects accomplished along the way.

A journey of a thousand miles, begins with one step..... and we all know every little bit helps toward our journey to any destination, so be encouraged and keep doing what you do!

Monday, November 3, 2008

Real Accomplishment

You can envision and speculate, plan, theorize and guess about how things will turn out. The way to know for sure, though, is to step forward and make the effort.

There are plenty of things that could go wrong, and challenges you probably never thought about. But don't let the mere possibility of those problems prevent you from getting started.

When events fail to unfold as you anticipated, you can learn, evaluate, make adjustments and then keep on going. Keep in mind that each difficult challenge brings with it the opportunity to create even greater value by working through it.

All the things that are easy and without risk have already been done. If it is real accomplishment you seek, you must be willing to take on real challenge.

Look ahead to the goal at the end of the path, and see it clearly. Then step confidently forward, ready to do whatever you must to reach that goal.

Real accomplishment is well within your reach. With real effort, real commitment and real persistence you'll absolutely get yourself there.

By Katrina "K-Rock" Moore

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Give It Up, It's Time To Quit...

I know you've heard this before but there are somethings we know we need to do, one of such things is to stop smoking if we do. Why? There are so many reasons to stop smoking such as the financial drain on your wallet, the damage to your health, having children with low birth weight and being under the power of a strongly addictive substance. A word is enough to the wise...



Saturday, November 1, 2008

Hey You! Start Moving Yourself Forward!



Start moving yourself forward.
The world opens up all sorts of easy & difficult opportunities your way.
Find ways to take advantage of them.
When opportunity meets preparation,
Magic happens & success is imminent.



However, you must choose to do so.
You must seize each day & take the initiative to take advantage of opportunities as they come your way.
& you must be prepared, focused & hardworking enough to finish what you start.
So that you can live a fulfilled life
Because you have a choice to either live the thrill of victory or endure the painful agony of regret.


Many events, people & situations will help you along & be the catalysis your progress.
The only limitations that can stop you temporarily or permanently are the ones you place on yourself.
Laziness, lack of confidence, doubts, confusion, incompetence and limiting beliefs are of no use to you.

So discard them.
You must work hard on yourself to know that you are worth being successful.
This may be easy or hard work for you depending on your level of self-esteem.
Regardless of what part of the self-esteem spectrum you are in,
Choose to let people, actions, beliefs and thought processes that don’t serve you go.


Your future, hopes, dreams and sense of fulfillment are calling you right now.

Calling you to start moving yourself forward.
Calling you to start putting in the hard work required to make you the best you, you can be.
Calling for you to be your best self.
Calling for you to live to your fullest potential.
Calling for you to make you proud of yourself
Start moving yourself forward

Second by second

Hour by hour

Day by day

Month by month

Year by year

Decade by decade

& let yourself be the best you, the star, you know you can be,

Because you must Start before you can become a Star!

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Over 55 Years Old & Looking To Volunteer?


Join Experience Corps, an award-winning national program, engages people over 55 in meeting their communities' greatest challenges. 2,000 Experience Corps members tutor and mentor in 19 cities across the country, providing literacy coaching, homework help, consistent role models and committed and caring attention. 


Volunteers receive a $1400 educational award to use or give to a loved one after volunteering 450 hours by spending 15 volunteer hours per week at a school. The program is in over 22 schools in Baltimore City.

Independent research shows that Experience Corps boosts student academic performance, helps schools and youth-service organizations become more successful, and enhances the well-being of older adults in the process.

For more information, visit http://www.experiencecorps.org/index.cfm

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Food for thought: Optimists vs Pessimists


Pessimists see the glass as half empty, optimists see the glass as half full. Which one are you? Does it depend on the situation, your mood or other extenuating circumstances? Regardless of the situation or how bleak the prospect seems, be encouraged and strive to be an optimist!

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

The End Of The Road - Divorce


Assuming you have been to counseling and tried everything but you can’t continue to live with your spouse, then divorce is may be the solution. Divorce causes physical, mental and financial fallout. Many years of marriage conjure feelings of failure, anger, hurt but don’t go for the jugular to destroy your soon to be ex-spouse. Focus on what your vision of separation is. It may be peace, solitude, financial independence or anything else. That is the vision that will keep you going as you work through your separation and divorce.

Work out your frustrations by talking to friends, writing in a journal, eating healthy and exercising. According to Attorney Neil Hursh, the best thing you can do is to leave the past in the past. You can't go back and undo the things you did, so this advice is best. Attorney karl kuenhold advises that one should remember that you once loved the person, so there's something or many things good about them though you may not be able to see that right now.

Also, we all know breaking up is not easy and some situations may get out of control, so do it a public place where violence is less of an option or even if there is, it will be minimal. Be apathetic and say something nice like, "You are a wonderful person but this isn’t working out."

Things go downhill when lawyers get involved so try to work things out together without a third party. If that doesn’t work, try an arbitrator and if that doesn’t work, the last resort would be attorneys. I would say though you might be tempted to get an attorney that's a shark to "take your spouse to the cleaners and destroy them." However, I would advise that you reconsider this stance if you have children together.

Remember that though in different degrees, divorce ultimately traumatizes all parties involved, so do everyone a favor by doing the best you can to be kind in words and deeds during and after the process.

Monday, October 27, 2008

Postrate Cancer Is A Man Thing


My father had Postrate Cancer. He survived, but men die daily from it. 1 in 6 men will be diagnosed with postrate cancer in their lifetime. More than 27,000 men will die from postrate cancer in 2008. African American men have the highest incidence of developing postrate cancer. Early screening is the best defense against Postrate Cancer.