Consequences Of Making an Ex-loved One Jealous

Hi there,

Today I will address the subject of making a person jealous, specifically an ex-loved one. This could be a spouse, boy or girlfriend or even a “friend with benefits”. It seems in relationshipsthese days each person wants the other to know that they are replaceable. Beyonce's songs such as Irreplaceable or Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It), attest to the popularity of this theme. People think it is cute to replace people in their lives. However in reality at what cost do people make others jealous? Sometimes at the cost of their loved one’s lives.

Jennifer Hudson’s sister paid the price with her mother and her young child’s lives. Her ex-boyfriend killed these people because he was jealous that she was receiving gifts from another man. I assume he was hot when he saw the gift and probably lashed out at her at least verbally and as a woman I believe the words in her response only added fuel to the fire. We must realize that when we are dealing with people, feelings rule so we must always choose our words carefully when speaking to people because we could be using our own actions and words to have someone kill those very dear to us. Though this is an extreme case, it is not the first and probably won't be the last time such an occurence has occured.

A milder case was when I watched in amazement as Tracy Edmunds let her relationship be displayed in the media. She split with Babyface, the man who put her on the entertainment map and started having a high profile affair with Eddie Murphy. Not that she should not have been with Eddie Murphy but she should respect herself, Babyface and her children enough to hide the affair from the media glare considering that both men are huge figures in entertainment and she has two young boys who have to go to school and could be made fun of by their peers too. I was not too surprised when on the Tyra Banks show, Babyface said though it didn’t bother him at first. However, when people started asking him how he felt about his wife dating Eddie Murphy, he started having second thoughts. I thought to myself, why would a woman with sense put the father of her children in such an awkward position? Then the drama that ensued from her “marriage” that didn’t go through with Eddie Murphy occurred and she looked silly. So was it really worth it?

I often watch people talk and act like there are no consequences to their actions. We all need to be kind to others and do all we can to not hurt other people's feelings because we could end up paying the price we didn’t anticipate.