Monday, February 28, 2011

Too Young To Be A Family Man !


I was watching the TV show, Home Delivery earlier today which featured 22 year old Robert and 23 year old Takeira. They are a couple who have 2 kids together and Takeira is 6 months pregnant with their third child. When she told him she was pregnant, he left, saying he had never had the chance to be young and have fun. For example, she said he’s been partying and sleeping with other people. He’s out, having fun while his children are asking mommy where he is. Talk about being selfish. Takeira’s mother wrote Home Delivery for help and as always, they came to the rescue.

The show did what they could by giving Takeira a day of pampering at the spa, Steve Lyons decorating the baby’s nursery with donations like furniture from Baby and Company, 3mths worth of diapers from Luvs, and Clorox disinfecting wipes. One of the hosts of the show said, “These are two people that belong together and I think they know it.” It was like the show has fixed the situation. NOT!

As much as I appreciate the nice things the show did for the couple, to me, it appears the show just put Band Aid on a wound that requires many major surgery. When you just put Band Aid on a major problem, it is bound to reappear. However next time, it will be much bigger because the unaddressed issue has lasted longer and had the chance to fester.

This guy was the same man he was when she first met him, when they had no kids together. He was the same man when they had the first, second and now the third upcoming child. He is who he is. This is not about whether he’s bad or good. His mind is just not ready for the life his actions have created. Fortunately for him, he’s a man so he can walk away at any time. Unfortunately for her, she’s the woman and the mother, so whether she likes it or not, whether she is ready for the responsibility or not, or whether she still wants to have fun or not, she’s saddled with the responsibility of being responsible for the children and raising them.

What she should have received was the next available appointment at the local Planned Parenthood office to receive some very potent birth control pills or devices. Just because some people have mature reproductive organs doesn’t mean they have a mind that’s responsible enough to manage them effectively and/or deal with the consequences of using them.

Three kids at 23 years old is too much for two young people with an unstable future. I believe Robert was telling the truth when he said he wants to have fun. Although, during the show, after being talked to by the show host’s and I guess his own conscious was judging him, he said he wants to come back to his family. I think he’s just doing the “responsible” thing, not what he wants to do deep down inside. If he stays, which may be only temporary, he will have serious resentment in him. He’ll feel he was trapped into the life. He really needs to be let loose to have fun and get it out of his system. Bottom line is, he’s young, so he thinks and acts young.

An average 22 year old urban African American male in the USA of today is not ready to settle down. Yes, he’s ready to have sex, any day any time, but settling down is not part of that equation in his mind. Even if he means well, marries and theorizes that he wants to be a “good husband”, the reality is that most of them, thanks to lack of good role models, not growing up in stable two parent family homes, not focusing on receiving a good education, lacking good careers and jobs and being brainwashed by the influence of the negative media like music and movies that demean and objectify women, they can’t do it well even if they try even really hard and have the best intentions. Like my neighbor said, “These young black guys out there today are just not made to be men anymore.

Even though the TV show brought them back “together,” they both are not psychologically in the same place. He will most likely continue to “party”, but going forward, he’ll just be slicker about how he does it. I say that because they didn’t go through any counseling sessions where his and her needs where shared and a plan created to meet both sets of needs while still being a family.

They are patching things up for now, but I’d hate to see them eventually split down the line after the 5th child which though I hope not, will most likely be the case and unfortunately the children who asked for no part of this will be the ones that will suffer the most.

A word is enough for the wise……



Shelbyville, Tennessee Welcomes Immigrants

 

It used to be that one didn’t discuss religion and politics if one didn’t want to be politically incorrect or offend others at gatherings. Now immigration can be added to that list as it is has also become a hot button topic that can easily have friends on opposing sides.

However, the issue is being addressed in different ways by different people and groups, and Shelbyville Multimedia have put their own spin on it in their new documentary titled, Welcome to Shelbyville, where the people of rural Shelbyville, Tennessee are taking immigration into their own hands – by welcoming newcomers.

The documentary is set against the backdrop of a shaky economy and takes an intimate look at the southern town as its residents which comprises of whites and African Americans, Latinos and Somalis – grapple with their beliefs, their histories and their evolving ways of life. It is said that no situation leaves you the way it found you and this documentary shows the power of the human spirit and good old American hospitality.

Welcome to Shelbyville is directed and produced by award-winning filmmaker, Kim A. Snyder and executive produced by BeCause Foundation, in association with Active Voice. It is a recipient of a 2010 Gucci-Tribeca Documentary Fund grant and an official selection of the U.S. State Department’s 2010 American Documentary Showcase. It will have its national broadcast on PBS’s Independent Lens in 2011.

Please support this documentary to encourage the makers to make more of such productions. To learn more about the documentary, including how to purchase copies, visit http://www.shelbyvillemultimedia.org/

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Let the 2011 Oscar Winners Be Your Teachers


Are you a person in the entertainment business just starting out or in the middle of your career journey trying to hone your craft? Well, you're in luck! What better way is there to step up your game at your chosen career field other than studying the best works out there? To be the best, learn from the best for free by carefully analyzing their finished work, picking it apart and putting it back together visually. You don't have to physically be present and watching someone work to be mentored by the person.

In that vein, below is a list of the 2011 Oscar winners. Whether the winners should have won is debateable, but there's no argument about the fact that these productions had the best of everything money can buy to make them the winners they are. So feel free to learn from them for free by watching their award winning work.

Alice in Wonderland by Walt Disney Pictures Production (Walt Disney)

• Art Direction

• Costume Design

• Visual Effects

Animal Kingdom by Porchlight Films Production (Sony Pictures Classics)

• Jacki Weaver - Actress in a Supporting Role

Another Year by Thin Man Films Production (Sony Pictures Classics)

• Original Screenplay

Barney's Version by Serendipity Point Films Production (Sony Pictures Classics)

• Makeup

Biutiful by Menage Atroz, Mod Producciones and Ikiru Films Production (Roadside Attractions)

• Javier Bardem - Actor in a Leading Role

• Foreign Language Film (Mexico)

Black Swan by Protozoa and Phoenix Pictures Production (Fox Searchlight)

• Natalie Portman - Actress in a Leading Role

• Cinematography

• Directing

• Film Editing

• Best Picture

Blue Valentine by Silverwood Films and Hunting Lane Films Production (The Weinstein Company)

• Michelle Williams - Actress in a Leading Role

The Confession by National Film and Television School Production

• Short Film (Live Action)

Country Strong by Material Pictures Production (Sony Pictures Releasing (Screen Gems)

• Original Song - "Coming Home"

The Crush by Purdy Pictures Production

• Short Film (Live Action)

Day & Night by Pixar Animation Studios Production

• Short Film (Animated)

Dogtooth by Boo Production (Kino International)

• Foreign Language Film (Greece)

Exit through the Gift Shop by Paranoid Pictures Production (Producers Distribution Agency)

• Documentary (Feature)

The Fighter by Relativity Media Production (Paramount)

• Christian Bale - Actor in a Supporting Role

• Amy Adams - Actress in a Supporting Role

• Melissa Leo - Actress in a Supporting Role

• Directing

• Film Editing

• Best Picture

• Original Screenplay

Gasland by Gasland Production

• Documentary (Feature)

God of Love by Luke Matheny Production

• Short Film (Live Action)

The Gruffalo by Magic Light Pictures Production

• Short Film (Animated)

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part 1 by Warner Bros. UK Services Production (Warner Bros.)

• Art Direction

• Visual Effects

Hereafter by Dombey Street Production (Warner Bros.)

• Visual Effects

How to Train Your Dragon by DreamWorks Animation Production (Paramount)

• Animated Feature Film

• Original Score

I Am Love by First Sun and Mikado Production (Magnolia Pictures)

• Costume Design

The Illusionist by Django Films Production (Sony Pictures Classics)

• Animated Feature Film

In a Better World by Zentropa Production (Sony Pictures Classics)

• Foreign Language Film (Denmark)

Incendies by micro-scope Production (Sony Pictures Classics)

• Foreign Language Film (Canada)

Inception by Warner Bros. UK Services Production (Warner Bros.)

• Art Direction

• Cinematography

• Original Score

• Best Picture

• Sound Editing

• Sound Mixing

• Visual Effects

• Original Screenplay

Inside Job by Representational Pictures Production (Sony Pictures Classics)

• Documentary (Feature)

Iron Man 2 by Marvel Studios Production (Paramount and Marvel Entertainment, Distributed by Paramount)

• Visual Effects

The Kids Are All Right by Antidote Films, Mandalay Vision and Gilbert Films Production (Focus Features)

• Mark Ruffalo - Actor in a Supporting Role

• Annette Bening - Actress in a Leading Role

• Best Picture

• Original Screenplay

Killing in the Name by Moxie Firecracker Films Production

• Documentary (Short Subject)

The King's Speech by See-Saw Films and Bedlam Production (The Weinstein Company)

• Colin Firth - Actor in a Leading Role

• Geoffrey Rush - Actor in a Supporting Role

• Helena Bonham Carter - Actress in a Supporting Role

• Art Direction

• Cinematography

• Costume Design

• Directing

• Film Editing

• Original Score

• Best Picture

• Sound Mixing

• Original Screenplay

Let's Pollute by Geefwee Boedoe Production

• Short Film (Animated)

The Lost Thing by Passion Pictures Australia Production

• Short Film (Animated)

Madagascar, carnet de voyage (Madagascar, a Journey Diary) by Sacrebleu Production

• Short Film (Animated)

Na Wewe by CUT! Production

• Short Film (Live Action)

127 Hours by Hours Production (Fox Searchlight)

• James Franco - Actor in a Leading Role

• Film Editing

• Original Score

• Original Song - “If I Rise”

• Best Picture

• Adapted Screenplay

Outside the Law (Hors-la-loi) by Tassili Films Production (Cohen Media Group)

• Foreign Language Film (Algeria)

Poster Girl by Portrayal Films Production

• Documentary (Short Subject)

Rabbit Hole by Olympus Pictures, Blossom Films and Oddlot Entertainment Production (Lionsgate)

• Nicole Kidman - Actress in a Leading Role

Restrepo by Outpost Films Production (National Geographic Entertainment)

• Documentary (Feature)

Salt by Columbia Pictures Production (Sony Pictures Releasing)

• Sound Mixing

The Social Network by Columbia Pictures Production (Sony Pictures Releasing)

• Jesse Eisenberg - Actor in a Leading Role

• Cinematography

• Directing

• Film Editing

• Original Score

• Best Picture

• Sound Mixing

• Adapted Screenplay

Strangers No More by Simon & Goodman Picture Company Production

• Documentary (Short Subject)

Sun Come Up by Sun Come Up Production

• Documentary (Short Subject)

Tangled by Walt Disney Pictures Production (Walt Disney)

• Original Song - “I See the Light”

The Tempest by Touchstone Pictures and Miramax Films (Touchstone Pictures)

• Costume Design

The Town by Charlestown Production (Warner Bros.)

• Jeremy Renner - Actor in a Supporting Role

Toy Story 3 by Pixar Production (Walt Disney)

• Animated Feature Film

• Original Song - “We Belong Together”

• Best Picture

• Sound Editing

• Adapted Screenplay

Tron: Legacy by Walt Disney Pictures Production (Walt Disney)

• Sound Editing

True Grit by Paramount Pictures Production (Paramount)

• Jeff Bridges - Actor in a Leading Role

• Hailee Steinfeld - Actress in a Supporting Role

• Art Direction

• Cinematography

• Costume Design

• Directing

• Best Picture

• Sound Editing

• Sound Mixing

• Adapted Screenplay

Unstoppable by 20th Century Fox Production (20th Century Fox)

• Sound Editing

The Warriors of Qiugang by Thomas Lennon Films Production

• Documentary (Short Subject)

Waste Land by Almega Projects and O2 Filmes (Arthouse Films)

• Documentary (Feature)

The Way Back by Exclusive Films Production (Newmarket Films in association with Wrekin Hill Entertainment and Image Entertainment)

• Makeup

Winter's Bone by Anonymous Content and Winter’s Bone Production (Roadside Attractions)

• John Hawkes - Actor in a Supporting Role

• Jennifer Lawrence - Actress in a Leading Role

• Best Picture

• Adapted Screenplay

Wish 143 by Swing and Shift Films/Union Pictures Production

• Short Film (Live Action)

The Wolfman by Universal Pictures Production (Universal)

• Makeup

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Are you an actor or actress or do you dream of becoming one?



If so, save yourself wasted time and effort because Sean Pratt, a working actor is kind enough to share some advice and helpful information via his newsletter, The Weekly Sojourns of Sean Pratt with you.


Don’t rush in and rush out of the acting business because of your own ignorance. Avoid mistakes other actors and actresses make. Only a fool needs to learn from his own mistakes. The wise learn by listening to more experienced people’s advice and avoiding mistakes others have made by reading, so sign up for Sean’s working actor newsletter, The Weekly Sojourns of Sean Pratt at www.seanprattpresents.com and put your email address in the sign-up box.

If you like what you read, please tell your friends about it and say, "Hey, why don't you sign up! It's a really cool newsletter, that informs, advices and encourages you in the ever turbulent acting world and it would also make Sean's day! Visit www.seanprattpresents.com to learn more and sign up.

Happy Acting!

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Saturday, February 26, 2011

Do You Speak Cruel Words To Yourself?



Women are own harshest critics and worst enemies when it comes to our body image. Do you find yourself saying, I'm so ugly, fat, stupid etc. If you do, you are not alone.Women on the average make thirteen "I hate my body" statements a day. We women speak brutal words that don’t affirm us to ourselves. We don’t speak the regular garden variety, "My butt just looks too big" or "This pimple on my face makes me look hideous" words, we speak really cruel words that shouldn’t be written to ourselves. We are downright cruel to ourselves.

If a man spoke to us like we sometimes do to ourselves, it would be considered verbal relationship abuse. Yet we talk this way to ourselves. We speak words with this kind of venom to ourselves. More often than not, our body is a screen to project our negative feelings on. We project on our body negative feelings we have about ourselves in other areas of our lives. If a man isn't interested in us, it's because we are ugly. If we fail at something, we say we are stupid or dumb. We create mean girl mantras in our own heads and recite them to ourselves.

The world is especially a harsh place for women. We are at least second class citizens but in most cases we are third or fourth class citizens depending on our race. The world beats us down enough so we don't need to join in.

Luckily there’s a way out of our negative self image rut by doing the following:

1. Never focus on the negatives about yourself. Remember that neurons that wire together, fire together.

2. Slow down and hear what you say to yourself and your body.

3. Speak positive words of affirmation and love to yourself. Remember that neurons  that fire together, wire together.

4. Ask yourself if whatever you feel so badly about is really true or a composition of a myriad of other issues. Ask yourself this question, "Is this really about my body or something else." How you feel may be due to  feelings of inadequacy or frustration in on other areas of your life.

5. Write down your negative thoughts and think about them one by one thoroughly. Ask yourself if your negative thoughts are there to distract you from something else.

6. Focus on the issues in your life that need to be addressed.

7. Take time to exercise because the endorphins released will make you happy or at least less sad and will remove or calm down the mean girl loop playing in your brain.

8. Verbally tell yourself to stop with the negative messages or condemnation of yourself.

9. Stop obsessing over your body because it won’t change a thing. If you don't like something about your body take proactive steps to change it.

10. Remember that overweight or not you are beautiful. Forget the media's silly skinny image ideal. However, you should strive to be a healthy weight for your body type.

11. Play up your strengths instead of downgrading yourself by focussing on your weaknesses. Show off your good features. Be proud of yourself and show yourself off. Also, try to work on your weaknesses at your own pace. Remember slow but steady wins the race.

12. Keep a diary to keep a record of your thoughts and feelings to open your eyes to what you are doing to yourself.

13. Remember to eat right, exercise, get adequate restful sleep and meditate.

14. Be still and know that God is God. He is ultimately in control of your life.

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Young African Professionals In The News



Young African Professionals Event 02/25/11

A Conversation with Emerging Leaders in African Literature.

The event featured three emerging young African writers namely:

Olufemi Terry, 2010 Caine Prize Winner

Olufemi Terry won the 2010 Caine Prize for African Writing for his short story Stickfighting Days.

Born in Sierra Leone to a Sierra Leonean father and an Antillean mother, Terry grew up in Nigeria, the UK and Cote d'Ivoire, studied at the New York University (earning a B.A. in Political Science in 1994 and a Masters degree in Interactive Telecommunications in 2002) and has lived in Kenya, Somalia and Uganda, working as a journalist and editor with The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, the World Health Organisation, and the World Bank. In 2008 he earned an MA in Creative Writing from the University of Cape Town. He now lives in Cape Town and is completing work on his first novel.

With this win, Terry joins a distinguished list of Caine laureates, including Nigerians EC Osondu (2009), Segun Afolabi (2005), Helon Habila (2001), Kenyan Binyavanga Wainaina (2001) and Ugandan Monica arac de Nyeko (2007). Apart from the cash prize, the win also comes with a month-long writing residency at Georgetown University.

The Caine Prize, established in 2000, celebrates short stories of between 3,000 and 10,000 words by African writers, and is one of the continent's most prestigious literary awards. Its patrons are the three African winners of the Nobel Prize for Literature, as well as Chinua Achebe.

Nana Ekua Brew-Hammond

Nana Ekua Brew-Hammond has written for The Village Voice, Metro, Trace Magazine, Parenting Magazine, AOL, Nike, L'Oreal & Bluefly. Her short story "'Bush Girl" was published in African Writing and the anthology Woman's Work; her poem "The Whinings of Seven Sister Cum Laude College Graduate Working Bored As An Assistant" is included in the anthology Growing Up Girl. Brew-Hammond, a graduate of Vassar College, drew from her experience at Mfantsiman Girls' Secondary School in Ghana to write her debut novel Powder Necklace. Find her on Facebook.com/PowderNecklace and www.nanaekua.com.

Helon Habila, 2001 Caine Prize Winner

Helon Habila was born in Nigeria in 1967. He studied literature at the University of Jos and taught at the Federal Polytechnic Bauchi, before moving to Lagos to work as a journalist.

In Lagos he wrote his first novel, Waiting for an Angel, which won the Caine Prize in 2001. Waiting for an Angel has been translated into many languages including Dutch, Italian, Swedish, and French.

In 2002 he moved to England to become the African Writing Fellow at the University of East Anglia. After his fellowship he enrolled for a PhD in Creative Writing. His writing has won many prizes including the Commonwealth Writers Prize, 2003. In 2005-2006 he was the first Chinua Achebe Fellow at Bard College in New York. He is a contributing editor to the Virginia Quarterly Review, and in 2006 he co-edited the British Council's anthology, New Writing 14. His second novel, Measuring Time, was published in February, 2007. He currently teaches Creative Writing at George Mason University in Fairfax, Virginia, where he lives with his wife and children.























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Friday, February 25, 2011

Nana Ekua Brew-Hammond On Her Life & Novel


There's a saying that if you want to hide something from a black man put it in a book, insinuating that people of African ancestry focus more on oral rather than written communications. This anti-intellectual sentiment about people of African ancestry some say was born out of slavery, a time when slaves were denied access to education with the subsequent consequences lingering for centuries.

Thankfully that's no longer the case and several emerging African authors are creating a renaissance of African literature by writing authentic African stories that correctly depict African characters with authentic African behaviors and sensibilities. These authors who previously only enjoyed a large Western following are now enjoying patronage by many people of African Ancestry including African readers in Africa and in the Diaspora and this welcomed trend is now also promoting the culture of reading in them.

One of these new authors is Nana Ekua Brew-Hammond, a graduate of Vassar College with whose figure and looks a fashion modeling career wouldn't have been farfetched. Instead of heading for fashion runways, she listened to her inner voice to become a writer. She has written for The Village Voice, Metro, Trace Magazine, Parenting Magazine, AOL, Nike, L'Oreal & Bluefly. Her short story, "'Bush Girl" was published in African Writing and the anthology, Woman's Work. Her poem, "The Whinings of Seven Sister Cum Laude College Graduate Working Bored As An Assistant" is included in the anthology, Growing Up Girl.

Nana is now a bona fide and lauded African author who is writing from the African female perspective and allowing that demographic's voice to be heard loudly as her debut novel, Powder Necklace has propelled her into the limelight. She is now sharing the stage as an emerging African author and moving in the big league circles with more seasoned and celebrated African authors, especially after Powder Necklace pierced Amazon.com's Top 100 in July 2010 and was named among the Top 10 Books of 2010 by AfricaBookClub.com.

I recently met this intelligent, articulate and surprisingly humble sister who graciously agreed to an interview. During our discussion, it was obvious that because she was born to Ghanaian parents in the US, she's all too familiar with the prevalent identity crisis that most children of immigrants grapple with. This identity crisis is compounded for children of African immigrants because Africa is often wrongly depicted in the Western media as a continent of coup d'états, wars, famine and malnourished refugees. However, unlike many who let the experience marginalize and discourage them, Nana has chosen to passionately embrace all she is and make her experiences and journey of self-discovery available to the reading public via her brilliantly crafted novel. In this interview she discusses why and how she wrote the novel. Below are excerpts.

Who is Nana Ekua Brew Hammond?

I was born in the US to Ghanaian parents and raised with my siblings in Queens, New York. I was a "Queens girl" who abhorred being different; and if I was to be different, I didn't want to be African, because Africa is generally depicted negatively in the media. When I was growing up, Ethiopia's famine in particular was constantly in the news. I was young and impressionable and didn't want to be associated with the negative images being shown.

The ethnic slur used to insult Africans at the time was, "African Booty Scratcher," perhaps to connote the image of an itching savage, which I didn't want to be associated with either. This ignorance was contagious to the point that I became mortified when my parents spoke our native language, Fanti in public, and was embarrassed of the tell-tale splatters of red oil dotting our kitchen wall--proof that we ate traditional Ghanaian foods. Also, being dark skinned in the US in the 1980s wasn't cool. There's a more pro-African sentiment now, but back then that wasn't the case. All these things made me try to disassociate myself from my African heritage.

My thoughts which manifested through my actions probably backfired. Perhaps fearing that we were becoming too "Americanized" or disconnected from our identity as bi-cultural children, at the age of 12, my parents had the brilliant idea to send my siblings and me home to Ghana. We initially thought it was for a vacation, but we quickly realized that we had one way tickets.

What did you experience in Ghana?

I realized quickly that I was really misinformed. In reality, people are people everywhere. What I was being told by my parents such as, “All kids are always well behaved in Ghana” and what was being suggested by the media--that every country in the African continent is ravished by famine--was very incorrect. Although my parents romanticized Ghana by saying, “All kids are always well behaved,” in reality kids behave badly in Ghana too.

The way the African continent was being depicted in the media just told part of the story. As the saying goes, if it bleeds it reads, so I guess the US media was telling African stories they deemed newsworthy, which were all negative stories, without realizing that many people assume that the few images they show of a small part of Africa applies to the whole continent. In reality, although many Africans are in dire straits, certainly not all Africans are. Many are also very wealthy, and many Africans in Africa are living their lives, working, schooling, running businesses and traveling. All of which I didn't see in the media growing up, so I had the wrong impression of who I was, my culture, my heritage and where my parents come from.

How did schooling in Ghana change you?

I had a complete transformation. I went to Ghana as "Nana," a girl who didn't understand or appreciate her heritage. However, by the time I left, I had experienced a psychological rebirth and I became "Nana Ekua," a young lady who is extremely proud of Ghana's history, and her Ghanaian culture and heritage.

Where are you now in your journey of self-discovery?

I now love and appreciate who I am. I love Ghana, Africa, and America. My being different which I once viewed as a burden is now one of the things I celebrate most about myself. You can't shut me up about Ghana now.

Are you an African, an American or both?

It depends on who you ask and where you ask me that question. In Ghana, I feel more American, but in America, I feel Ghanaian. Last August I did a book launch in Ghana which was great; however it brought the issue that I'm sometimes perceived as an “outsider” to light. Even though my parents are Ghanaians and ethnically I am a Ghanaian, in Ghana I'm considered an “Obroni" which means "a Caucasian, a white person or a foreigner.” The word can be used in the racial or cultural context, and in my case it is used in the cultural context. I'm considered "other" even though I remind them that my parents are both Ghanaians and I spent three years schooling there.

How do you define yourself?

Defining “who I am” is interesting because growing up in the US I felt I was an "outsider or other" and at the same time in Ghana, I'm also an "outsider or other." The reality is I am a product of both places so I can't claim just one. I now embrace my dual identity fully. I think that anyone who has spent a significant amount of time away from their native country and culture grapples with this because just as we as people change and evolve, culture evolves too, whether or not we are aware of it. For example, when my parents left the US and returned to Ghana, they had changed from who they were when they first immigrated to the US. The Ghana they returned to as older people had also changed from the Ghana they left.

You've lived in the US and Ghana, do you cling to the African author title?

I feel my writing and I are as authentically "African" as any other African that is born and raised in any African country. I also think the notion of what "African Literature" is continues to evolve. For example, Chris Cleave is the Caucasian British author of Little Bee, a book about an African protagonist. Is he an "African writer?" Is Little Bee an "African book?" The answer you receive to those questions depends on who you ask. So, I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I know who I am, which is a writer who was born in the US to Ghanaian parents and raised both in the US and Ghana.


What is your novel, Powder Necklace about?

It is a fictionalized account of my experiences at Mfantsiman Girls' Secondary School in Ghana. The novel depicts a time at the school when there was water scarcity. To ensure their kids didn't lack anything including water, rich families had barrels of water sent to their kids at the school. These rich students were able to take their baths and as a status symbol they put powder on their necks to show they had taken their baths while others couldn't. This showed that they were privileged and separate from the poor students. In response to this and to avoid being labeled as poor, other students who hadn't taken their baths started following suit. Then everyone began putting powder on their necks. We used to jokingly call it "polish on dirt." But now that I think about it, these actions became an equalizer. It was really a unique way of us as young teenage girls handling our situation the best way we knew how. We refused to be marginalized and ultimately we rose above the situation.

Of all the experiences you could've written about, why did you chose that one?

My time in Ghana was life changing. Imagine my horror being a girl from Queens, New York, who was just getting used to bathing out of a bucket of water fetched from a tap only to face no water coming out of that tap. I was shocked to say the least, but I survived and I’m a better person because of it. In addition to that, the display of the differences between people based on their families' social stratification at such young ages is very memorable to me. Finally, I was immersed in my native culture for the first time in my life and I was able to form a completely new opinion of Ghana, Africa, and by extension, myself.

Why did you choose to write the novel?

I wrote it because I wanted to expand the idea of black literature to include the African, Afro-European, and immigrant experience. I also wanted to get across the idea that events in your life that appear to be random actually have a point. Finally, I wanted people to be proud of who they are, where they come from and invite people to investigate the world beyond their block, circle of friends, etc.

What made you believe you could become an author?

Books like Zadie Smith's White Teeth, April Sinclair's Coffee Will Make You Black, Edwidge Danticat's Breath, Eyes, Memory, Buchi Emecheta's The Joys of Motherhood, Ama Ata Aidoo's Dilemma of a Ghost, Wally Lamb's She's Come Undone, Shauna Singh Baldwin's What the Body Remembers, and Janet Fitch's White Oleander validated my presence as a young lady who didn't fit the prevalent media stereotypes and opened me up to the possibility that I have what it takes to be a writer.

Describe your writing process?

For several years, I literally wrote Powder Necklace on my laptop during my one hour commute to and from work on the New York City Subway's F train. I also wrote till I dropped most nights and I'd wake up at 5 am in the morning and continue. I did this for spurts of time. Then I would stop for about a year and return to it. I had sleepless nights writing because I was very passionate about writing the story.

Now with my second novel things are different because my life has changed. I have moved closer to my job, so I don't have a long commute anymore. I'm also older now, so I get tired faster, but I write all the time even on my blackberry. Anytime I think of something such as an idea or a phrase, I document it immediately so I don't forget and include it later.

What inspires you? 

I'm inspired by dual identities and displacement issues because those are some of my experiences and I also like travel themes, but to challenge myself in my second novel, all the characters stay in Africa. However, the dual identity and displacement feelings are still present.

African parents desire prestigious and financially lucrative careers for their children, but writing isn't necessarily either and it's certainly not popular with most African parents. How did you convince your parents that this is a good career path for you?

My parents didn't like or embrace the idea of me being a writer initially. They wanted me to become a doctor. When that didn't work out they said, “Ok, you can become a lawyer.” They were disappointed when that didn't work out either.

Ultimately, they want what's best for me. They just had to be made aware that now there are many more options available to become successful. Also, I'm a working girl, so in addition to being a writer, I work and live a comfortable lifestyle, which was their main concern.

Have your parents changed their views since the success of your novel?

Now my parents are very proud of me. They now often tease that they planned everything. They say, "If we hadn't sent you to Ghana, you wouldn't have had the experiences Powder Necklace is based on." So they get some credit.

How did achieve the almost impossible feat of getting Powder Necklace published by Simon and Schuster?

It took me four years to find a literary agent. I submitted my manuscript to many agents. The ones that responded would say, “It would be great if you changed this, this and that. Then we will review it again.” I'd make the requested changes, but then they'd respond saying, “That's not what we had in mind.” This continued for a while with different agents. Slowly but surely, I began feeling disappointed because of the rejections even after I had complied with their requests.

Then I met a lady who was a new literary agent. She loved the story and was passionate about getting it published. She offered to work with me and while I was thinking things through, I discussed the situation with a friend of mine who is an insider in the publishing world. She told me she had never heard of the lady, so initially I was somewhat skeptical. However, I wasn't getting any other offers, so I prayed about it and I decided to work with her. Within two months she sold my novel to Simon and Schuster. So it's sometimes good to take a chance with an unknown and both of you can grow together.

What's next for you?

I'm still promoting Powder Necklace, working on my second novel tentatively titled Maids and Mothers, working on a script which is still in its early stages, and living life working and shuttling between the US and Ghana.

What message do you have for your fans?

I love and appreciate you all. My hope is that Powder Necklace will encourage and inspire you in the same way the books I mentioned earlier spurred me to write. Please stay in touch with me via Facebook.com/PowderNecklace, www.nanaekua.com and Twitter.com/nanaekua

Harvard African Development Conference 2011 – Innovation for Development: Exploring Solutions to Africa’s Challenges


Harvard African Development Conference 2011 
Innovation for Development: Exploring Solutions to Africa’s Challenges

Date: March 26th 2011

Time: 8am -10:30pm

Venue: Northwest Science Labs

Harvard College

Cambridge

MA02138

Keynote Speakers:

Tegegnework Gettu – Assistant Secretary General, United Nations

Director of African Region, United Nations Development Programme

Darius Man – President, Africare

Dr.Renosi Mokate – Executive Director, World Bank

Former Deputy Governor, South African Reserve Bank

Website: www.hadconference.com

Being A Fly On The Wall At Maryland's Public Schools Series - School 1



I visit many schools in Maryland, especially Baltimore area schools and get to see what is occurring as an outsider. I am launching this series to help the powers that be know what is occurring in the schools from an unbiased perspective as I'm not a teacher nor do I have kids attending. Hopefully, this will help them know what they should do to help restore the US to the number one spot in the world academically.

Scenario 1: School Secretary & Young Student

School Secretary: Whose book bag is this? I said whose book bag is this?

[Talking to a teacher ushering in a line of young students]

Please pull one of those kids into the office for me.

[Talking to the student that was pulled in]

School Secretary: Maisha, whose book bag is this?

Maisha: It's Levante's.

School Secretary [announcement]: Levante XXX report to the office.

[Levante, a boy who appears to be about 7 years old appears.]

Levante: You called me Ms. XXX

School Secretary: Yes, I called you, Levante. Is this your book bag?

Levante: Yes.

School Secretary: Levante, Your mother spoils you so much that you are not even responsible for your own book bag. You left it in the middle of the hall and someone brought it to me. Take your book bag and get back to your class.

Sociable Susan’s perspective: I feel her choice words and tone of voice were too harsh for a boy of that age. She should chastise him for his actions but how she did it was unneccessary.

Scenario 2: Several Teachers Lunchroom Discussion on Students’ Behaviors

Students' bad behavior starts at home. A lot of is parental. These students are not taught respect or morals and it funnels down to their interactions with all adults including teachers. Another issue is absentee parents. You'd be surprised at the number of grandparents raising grandchildren in this area.

Students don't even get suspended for what they should be anymore because it makes the school look bad. And you know that when there's no accountability so they act out because there are no consequences. Our schools are not preparing them for the future. The US used to be number one in education. Now other countries have passed us. Many of these kids don't even have school supplies but they have the latest iphone, Blackberry, clothes and shoes. Their priorities are really distorted. One particular kid asks me for supplies all the time, so one day I told him, “I’ll have to claim you on my taxes this year.”

Send them home and have them come back with their parents then they'll start acting right, but the school won't do that because the parents get upset. The parents blame the schools. They keep blaming the schools for everything. We blame the parents because it all starts at home. When I was coming up, I was scared of my parents, especially my mother. When I acted up my mother tore me up. I remember when I acted up in school one day. As soon as I saw my mother I knew she was going to whoop me, so I ran home. I was going to get the belt all right, but it wasn't going to be in front of all the students and teachers at school. That's why I ran home. I did get what was coming to me when I got home but I never acted up after that again. However, you can't touch them now. You can't even pull a belt to them. So they act up.

The parents are too busy with their own lives. When my boys were young, I would pop up each month at their school unannounced. If their teacher said they had done anything, they knew they were going to be punished. These days the parents don't want to be bothered with their own children. I don't even know why they had them.

I'm a teacher here and in this school we deal more with behavior than with education. We the staff are happy when kids behave well on any given day. We say, oh so and so is having a really good day today. That's ridiculous. All kids should be trained to be on their good or best behavior and have a good day every day at school, but that's not what's happening.

That’s why I’m a teacher’s aide. I have been one for 16 years and I will continue to be one. I don’t want to deal with the crap these teachers have to deal with here. See how they stress everyone out. Right now the Principal is stressed because it is getting close to test assessment time. Hear how he’s going on and on the PA system? He’s stressed out and he will make everyone one of these teachers stressed out too. It’s a mess that drizzles down. That’s why I don’t want to be a teacher.

Sociable Susan’s perspective: Raising children takes a village, so both parents and teachers are responsible for children’s behaviors. Blaming each other doesn’t work. Both parties should work together on behavior modification techniques to get the desired results. However, I totally understand that getting these two groups to work together is easier said than done.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

The Land of Milk & Honey Movie



Have you ever thought about quitting your job, pursuing your dreams, living life and exploring by travelling around the world? If you are, you are not alone. Some twenty something year olds are doing just that and making a movie of their journey to share with you. Maybe you can learn a thing or two from them about flying free!

The Land of Milk & Honey Travel Map

They say, “We are a bunch of twenty-somethings that have left our steady day jobs in pursuit of our dreams - to be creative and seek adventure. We have hit the road, traveling across the USA, Africa, Mexico and Canada and are documenting our experience 'on the roads less traveled'. Along the way, we will be sparking dialogues with interesting people we meet - we will be by-passing the mundane 'get-to-know-you' chit chat and getting straight down to the nitty gritty. Stories of risk, love, tragedy, and life-defining moments. We will tell their stories in hope of inspiring you to join us - to quit the routine and live your dreams. Because we believe that you should never trade your dreams for a paycheck.”

As Leo Buscaglia stated, "The greatest risk is to risk nothing at all," and hey, we only live once, so these people do have a point in doing what they are doing. However, we are not all cut from the same cloth, so if you can't do what they are doing, visit their YouTube channel at http://www.youtube.com/user/milkandhoneymovie or their website http://www.milkandhoneymovie.com/index.html so you can live vicariouly through them!

The Enabling Grandmother



I was recently privy to a discussion a woman who is a grandmother had with her fellow teacher at the Baltimore public school they both work about her irresponsible granddaughter. Below are excerpts....


Grandmother: My granddaughter wants to go back to school; I’d like a flyer for her about educational opportunities. She was once in a community college but once she received her financial aid for the second semester that was it. She spent the money and didn’t go back. Now she has two kids, no man and wants go back to school.

Co-worker: It can be done but it is hard work, so she must really want it. It’s much harder with kids.

Grandmother: My granddaughter has put me through too much. Even much more than my own children did. When my mother watched my children, once I was done doing what I was doing I came back and got my children. My granddaughter has me watching her kids all the time. She gets off work at 5 pm. She shows up 2 hours after work at 7 pm. I tell her that it doesn't take two hours to get from her job to my house. It happens all the time.

Last week, her mother went to her job and was told that she had said she wasn’t feeling well and left earlier in the day. When she showed up when she wanted to much later in the day I could see on her face that she had been at home asleep. I asked her where she had been and she said at work. It was obvious that she had just woken up. Her mother, my daughter said, “No, you haven’t been at work because I went to your job and they said you left early. I just left your job and you weren't there." Then she started mumbling some nonsense.

She hangs out with her friends like she doesn’t want to be a parent. This same situation happened on Friday. So her mother, my daughter told her, “Don't drop your children here with my mother on Monday”. So she stayed at home with her kids and didn't go to work on Monday which was a holiday for the kids but not her. It’s a mess. I told her, Keisha, you know I love you and I would do anything for you, but I'm getting too old for this. These are your children and when you are not working or otherwise busy, they should be with you. If you need something you know I'll do it for you, but I can’t raise your kids.

I can’t raise those kids, the little boy is not so bad, but the little girl has a very high pitch voice and she screams when she doesn't get her way which gives me a headache. I can’t take it anymore.

Co-worker: I leave my kids with parents sometimes but I’m not inconsiderate or take advantage of them like that. That’s ridiculous and she does it because you let her.

Grandmother: I know she takes advantage of my love for her. Can you believe that all she's thinking about now is getting ready to go to the Little Wayne concert coming up?

Sociable Susan’s Perspective: This is just an irresponsible woman who is the architect of her own misfortune. However, she is lucky enough to have an enabling grandmother to help her continue in her irresponsible ways. The sooner her grandmother lets her become fully responsible for her life, her children and her choices, the better.

Note: If you are not familiar with the definition of an enabler as used in this context, read below:

Enabling is used in the context of problematic behavior, to signify dysfunctional approaches that are intended to help but in fact may perpetuate a problem. A common theme of enabling is that third parties take responsibility, blame, or make accommodations for a person's harmful conduct (often with the best of intentions, or from fear or insecurity which inhibits action). The practical effect is that the person themselves does not have to do so, and is shielded from awareness of the harm it may do, and the need or pressure to change. It is a major environmental cause of addiction.

A common example of enabling can be observed in the relationship between the alcoholic/addict and a codependent spouse. The spouse believes incorrectly that he or she is helping the alcoholic by calling into work for them, making excuses that prevent others from holding them accountable, and generally cleaning up the mess that occurs in the wake of their impaired judgment.[citation needed] In reality what the spouse is doing is hurting, not helping. Enabling prevents psychological growth in the person being enabled and can contribute to negative symptoms in the enabler.

Generally, individuals who enable others have weak boundaries, low self-esteem, and have difficulty being assertive when they communicate with others.

Source: Wikipedia

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

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Nesta Robert 'Bob' Marley

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Bob Marley
Real Name ; Nesta Robert Marley
Born ;6 February 1945, Nine Mile, Saint Ann, Jamaica
Died ;11 May 1981 (aged 36), Miami, Florida, United States
Genres ; Reggae, ska, rocksteady
Occupations ; Singer-songwriter, musician
Instruments ; Vocals, guitar, percussion
Years active ; 1962-1981
Labels ; Studio One, Upsetter, Tuff Gong
Associated ; The Wailers, Wailers Band, The Upsetters, I Threes,
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