First Class Singles Part III

Many of us want God’s stuff but not him. We want his gifts but we don’t want him, the giver. He says, I want you to want me for me because all that you need to relieve your baggage, issues and the vacuum and longing all of us were born with can be fulfilled in me. Some of us were verbally and physically abused and we keep rewinding the mental tape. Some of us were told "You’re not as pretty as your sister or you’ll never be anything", so we have low self-esteem. We are broken people and before we get married we should seek wholeness.

Why? Because it takes good eggs to make an omelet. If one egg is rotten, you have a rotten omelet. Don’t look for your other half. You shouldn’t want half a man or woman. When you come to someone with your entire baggage saying “take me” they will run in the opposite direction or use you and cause you more baggage. Men can spot a needy woman a mile off. Being needy you are like a neon light and everyone says here she comes. You unknowingly send signals shouting fill my cup, fill my cup, and tell me how wonderful I am! That’s why some women give up sex in hopes of getting love and the man is saying he loves you, just to get sex. God says no, passionately pursue me; spend time everyday reading my word. That’s my love letter to you. I will affirm you and tell you are fearfully and wonderfully made. I will not use your body and go to the next woman.

God says, “Your issues, insecurities and lack of wholeness, are why I died”. Col 2:10says we are complete in him. This is how we understand our purpose. You will know the reason why he created you. Also, when we read the word of God and we are told things that don’t line up with it, we know immediately and we can reject it. You may have told me I am a mistake, but that’s not what God said. He said before the foundation of the world, I knew you and had your plan. I scheduled everyday of your life. I have seen every tear and rejection. I still have plans for you. Passionately pursue God. Wake up in the morning with God on your mind, not a man, woman or even a career. Have God running through your system. The more passionately we pursue him the more we will know our purpose and be wiser singles dating.