Chapman's Ten Commandments Of Love

1. Love thyself - Care for and nurture yourself, then seek love from others.
2. Get your house in order - Stop the fantasies about what others owe you. "Rescue fantasies" don't create real and lasting love.
3. Respect love's power - Remember, love is not a medicine for all your emotional ills.
4. Thou shalt not indulge in negativity - Redifine your love together and work to make positive change occur.
5. Thou shalt ask and you will receive - Ask directly for what you want and you will receive. Learn to be reasonable.
6. Thou shalt love unconditionally - Determine the difference between what you need and what you want to show love.
7. Neither a follower or a leader be - Real love works best when both partners share power.
8. Within the confines of marriage, thou shalt enjoy healthy sexual pleasures and emotional intimacy - There's no room for shame.
9. Thou shalt not throw the first stone - Humans make mistakes, better referred to as growth experiences.
10. Thou shalt not allow fear to destroy good loving - Confront your fears honestly and remember to attack the problem and not the person.