Single Women Having Babies Via Artificial Insemination

On TV recently they showed single women who had made the decision to become parents via artificial insemination with donor sperm. They can't find their Mr. Right, so they are fulfilling their ambition to have kids before their reproductive cycles end. Aside from what may appear to be a "desperate" woman having one child to have someone to call her own, some are now going overboard by having many kids.

One lady that was shown had two boys by the same donor. Some women now order babies that look like celebrities or have certain "desirable" traits which include "tall, dark and handsome caucasian." These babies are now being called designer babies because the male parts of their traits are handpicked by the woman based on the traits of the donor profile she chooses.

Much as I appreciate not taking life as it comes and grabbing it by the horns, this to me is very unwise and it's akin to mere human beings playing God just because they can. The woman that chose to have two boys who won’t know their biological father is unwise because it is often said that boys especially need their fathers when growing up. When asked about this, the lady said something to the effect that she has male mentors for them. I guess she's doing the best she can, but I don’t believe that’s the same thing as having a father.

I appreciate the artificial insemination process giving couples the opportunity to become parents, when a man and woman are present and involved, because in that case they only helping the technical part of the process to ensure a desired outcome, but the way it is being used now, this is not the case.

I also appreciate single parenthood, which unfortunately these days is no more the exception and is fast becoming the norm, when it occurs. I understand that things happen and people need to live seperate lives, however, I would hope that wasn’t a couple's initial plan.

However, in this kind of single parenthood via in-vitro fertilization, a selfish and self centered way of thinking about bringing a child into the world is to blame. A woman who does it to "fulfill her dream" of having kids, and the man who profits financially from his donation are both thinking only of themselves.

What about the children who have no say in the decision process, but will become part of the scenario and live with the consequences? It's absolutely not fair to them, and the future psychological effects on them are not being considered. Children aren't dolls to be purchased at will, and having a child should not be based on being able to afford the procedure.

There are a myriad of obvious and hidden reasons why both parents (male and female) are needed in a child's life. There are too many reasons which I won’t write about right now. That's why in the divine scheme of things two parents, a man and a woman are needed to bring forth a child.
It is obvious that people will do what they like as long as they can afford it, however, I would advise anyone contemplating such a decision to seek counseling from neutral parties before making a decision. They should also remember that everything is permissible, but not everything is good.

A word is enough for the wise.