Dana Delany TV and screen star of TV staples like China Beach, Desperate Housewives and now, Body of Proof on the Wendy Williams show said she wants women to be liberated from dying their hair, while she colors hers every two weeks to cover up the gray and fattens her hair dresser's bank account. Shouldn't she lead by example?
I tell you, women often slay me with their “do as I say, not as I do” sentiments. Anyway, her story is that she started going gray at 28, which according to her is an “Irish thing," and she thought it was beautiful because her aunt has nice gray hair. However, all of that was until she ran into a male director, who saw her in NYC and put the word out and she got a call from a concerned friend about that fact that according to the director, “she was letting herself go.”
I'm not sure what this director thought he was doing by talking about her instead of talking to her. He's a fine one to talk about her. Most directors I know are the very ones who let themselves go the most because they are not in front of the camera and his insensitive comments about her look, which if anything, he should've asked her about and not gone talking about to the point that word got back to her and made her insecure about her hair and hence her twice monthly hair color touch up regimen is ridiculous. However, she too could've chosen to stand her ground and keep her hair the way it was. To be fair though, as an actress in a beauty based industry, she probably had no choice. However, we women need to know that we are human beings not dolls and not let what men say about us affect our self-image. So what if we have gray hair and imperfect bodies? We are human beings, not dolls and our physical body is only a part of who we are.
However, some women seem to need men's affirmation for no logical reason. My opinion is, if you get it from anyone including men, you get it, and if you don't, you don't. However, don't go searching for it or expect it. I recall a fashionista who once said she doesn't feel good about herself no matter the amount of complements women shower on her, until she receives a compliment from a man.
To me she sounded so insecure and what would she do if she doesn’t get? This is another classic example of us women being our own worst enemies catering to the whims of men who see us as objects and not people. However, I can see where she’s coming from because some of this may be biblical as in when God cursed Adam and Eve and said, "Your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you." God said, "Husband," however if the word husband is substituted for "a man," one can easily understand why some women are men pleasers.
However, I implore all women to be at peace with who they are and stop letting men's thoughts, actions or words affect them or rule their lives.
Back to Dana, you are a beautiful, intelligent, articulate and hard working woman. Your many years in show biz can attest to that and you don’t have to put your poor scalp and hair through all that chemical application, heat and processing so often. I’m sure the director has moved on and probably doesn’t even remember what he said. So move on girl! Liberate yourself first before talking about other women being liberated and give your scalp, hair and wallet some much deserved rest!
I tell you, women often slay me with their “do as I say, not as I do” sentiments. Anyway, her story is that she started going gray at 28, which according to her is an “Irish thing," and she thought it was beautiful because her aunt has nice gray hair. However, all of that was until she ran into a male director, who saw her in NYC and put the word out and she got a call from a concerned friend about that fact that according to the director, “she was letting herself go.”
I'm not sure what this director thought he was doing by talking about her instead of talking to her. He's a fine one to talk about her. Most directors I know are the very ones who let themselves go the most because they are not in front of the camera and his insensitive comments about her look, which if anything, he should've asked her about and not gone talking about to the point that word got back to her and made her insecure about her hair and hence her twice monthly hair color touch up regimen is ridiculous. However, she too could've chosen to stand her ground and keep her hair the way it was. To be fair though, as an actress in a beauty based industry, she probably had no choice. However, we women need to know that we are human beings not dolls and not let what men say about us affect our self-image. So what if we have gray hair and imperfect bodies? We are human beings, not dolls and our physical body is only a part of who we are.
However, some women seem to need men's affirmation for no logical reason. My opinion is, if you get it from anyone including men, you get it, and if you don't, you don't. However, don't go searching for it or expect it. I recall a fashionista who once said she doesn't feel good about herself no matter the amount of complements women shower on her, until she receives a compliment from a man.
To me she sounded so insecure and what would she do if she doesn’t get? This is another classic example of us women being our own worst enemies catering to the whims of men who see us as objects and not people. However, I can see where she’s coming from because some of this may be biblical as in when God cursed Adam and Eve and said, "Your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you." God said, "Husband," however if the word husband is substituted for "a man," one can easily understand why some women are men pleasers.
However, I implore all women to be at peace with who they are and stop letting men's thoughts, actions or words affect them or rule their lives.
Back to Dana, you are a beautiful, intelligent, articulate and hard working woman. Your many years in show biz can attest to that and you don’t have to put your poor scalp and hair through all that chemical application, heat and processing so often. I’m sure the director has moved on and probably doesn’t even remember what he said. So move on girl! Liberate yourself first before talking about other women being liberated and give your scalp, hair and wallet some much deserved rest!
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