Barbara, Mariah, Roe, Roc & Nick
Mariah’s first husband, Tommy Mattolla was said to be the man who, "Discovered and controlled her." However, due to their 21 year age, financial and status differences when they met, the control he exerted on her should’ve been expected. Such a relationship between a media mogul and an unknown albeit budding singer/ back up singer is unbalanced and that's what happens.
Many other aspiring singers at the time would have willingly traded places with her to move their careers forward. Female recording artists getting together with male power brokers in the industry is very prevalent. Thankfully things are changing, but at one time, it was almost a requirement. However, to give credit where it is due, if not for him, there would be no Mariah Carey as we know her today. So, people should remember that when they are tempted to think negatively of him.
After she left Tommy and his control over her, one could see from her music videos, the change that occured in her. Mariah who used to dance in fields wearing baggy or non-revealing outfits and wasn't physically in the same scene in a music video with Old Dirty Bastard, became a bikini wearing swimmer showing off her new found freedom and "physical goods" in her first post marriage music video. So her choice of a much younger second husband after a much older first one makes perfect sense. She’s over compensating for being controlled in her first marriage by marrying someone younger who can’t remotely even think about controlling her.
The late Marvin Gaye did the same thing too. Initially, he married his boss, Motown owner, Berry Gordy’s more “socially experienced” sister, Ana, who was 18 years his senior. He was 24 while she was 42. He later married 17 year old Janis Hunter, the daughter of Slim Gailard who he was 20 years older than. So, I guess it is normal for a person to want to regain the sense of control they lost in the first relationship.
The interview showed that Mariah and Nick are comfortable with each other because from my perspective they were honest. It revealed that Nick who had a crush on Mariah before they got together, loves Mariah from a young love perspective, and Mariah loves him too from a more mature and sensible perspective. A woman who marries a much younger man must have this.
I appreciate Mariah’s statement that she trusts Nick who has a huge tattoo of Mariah’s name on his back "sometimes." I didn’t know she could be that real and she also added, "He's a man Barbara!" Talk about maturity. She came across as being so mature. I personally don’t believe anyone should trust anyone including your own self because under the right set of circumstances, anyone can do anything including what you never thought you would ever do in a million years. That's human nature for you.
The interview also sheds light on the negatives of becoming a mother late in life. At 40 years old, Mariah had to endure fertility treatments, a miscarriage, gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, false labor, and bed rest. She could barely move or get out of bed by herself. She would sit and need help getting up. She couldn’t go to the bath room alone. She did everything to have a full term pregnancy, which she did successfully for 35 weeks, then she had a C-Section on her wedding date of April 30th to have her twins, Monroe (Roe), after actress, Marilyn Monroe & Moroccan (Roc) after the Moroccan Room, which is where he proposed to her.
He would like more children, but she doesn't. It's understandable because he didn't go through the pregnancy.
Not that younger mothers can’t have any of these issues as well, however, ladies as much as it’s up to you, have your babies when you are younger as long as you have found your Mr. Right who will stay with you and help you raise the child. If Mariah who was in tip top shape (a requirement for her career field) before getting pregnant went through all these issues, I can only imagine what the average out of shape woman would go through. Make having a family and children your priority. Your career can wait or be modified. There is a Yoruba proverb which states that the lifespan of a job or career is much longer than the lifespan of an employee. So, remember that when you are making career vs. motherhood choices.
Another thing I appreciate that Nick shared is that entertainers get too much attention and he wants his kids to get an education. He said they should, “Go get a PHD. Education first, that’s all.” I say, yeah, sure, getting PHDs are just that easy. Spoken like someone who didn’t get one. At the end of the interview they said, “It’s just love. It’s a beautiful place to be.”
I’m truly happy for them and I hope they stay together. May God bless their union and children. My message to Mariah is to meditate on Proverbs 14:1 which states, "A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands." For Nick, my message is Proverbs 18:22 which states, "He who finds a wife, finds what is good and received favor from the Lord.
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