There was a time when young adults such as teenagers and people in their early twenties were just that. They focused on family and school, and for recreation, they had their light easy going non-committed companionship arrangements to go to the movies or hang out with their friends. These relationships were neither here nor there, but they served their purpose for all involved. Now unfortunately, things have changed and more and more younger and younger people are in “love,” “believe” they are in “love” or want to be in “love.”
Unfortunately, because at that age, they don’t know what real love is, they imitate the fake version they read in novels, watch in movies and music videos, which ultimately lands them in trouble one way or another. I must say one can’t blame them because many kids don’t get to see real love on display even in their own homes, so they don’t know what it is. Many kids especially in the minority communities come from single parent homes, so they don’t even know what it’s like to have two parents interacting lovingly in a home.
Many of these kids who should be focused on their education, family and learning what it is to be a young adult act like real adult couples and unnecessarily burden themselves with the consequences of their actions. Many of them move in together, have sex regularly, share money, spy on each other, have major adult issues and fight. This is all playing house before they are emotionally, psychologically, mentally and physically prepared for it and the consequence. As the NLT bible states, in Songs of Solomon 8:4, “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.” Songs of Solomon 2:7 also states, “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, by the gazelles and wild deer, not to awaken love until the time is right” and Song of Solomon 3:5 also states, “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, by the gazelles and wild deer, not to awaken love until the time is right.” When the bible, a book of wisdom advises and repeats something, it should be noted by human being. However, this is not the case.
I have always knows this since I visit different University campuses and interact with the kids, and it’s the same everywhere, but Wendy Williams of the Wendy Williams Show recently visited Hofstra University, the largest private college in Long Island on Valentine’s Day and remarked that the kids are falling really deeply in love at such young ages. She said, “I went to college, you have a little boyfriend here and there, it should be about grades, jobs, sharing an apartment, it should be all about you. I was telling them, they care about grown people love. I’ve been in love, what do you care about this person that’s most likely not gong to be your husband or wife? Stop being so deeply in love. Focus on your future.” At that age, they think they know it all, so I’m sure they looked at her like she was crazy, but if they only know that she really knows that of which she speaks, they would learn a lot.
It makes no sense for them to be in such relationships. The boys are just looking for a place to “put it,” because they have physical sexual needs they want to fulfill and many also have aggression issues they need time to mature out of, and the immature, untrained emotional girls with growing brains who are constantly evolving don’t even know themselves yet are trying to hitch their wagon to and get love, attention and affection from often selfish and immature boys with growing brains who are constantly evolving don’t even know themselves yet, while they themselves are not mature enough to be the woman in relationship and support a man the way he needs. What a hoot. Good luck with that… Immature love not only destroys and scars the participants; it also leaves them as wounded and damaged people who have baggage and problems when they are actually old enough to participate in adult relationships.
That’s why we have so many immature boys who act like men trying to control their equally immature girl friends who have also over stepped their boundaries and assumed the wife role, which sometimes end up in the Yeardley Love/George Huguely assault, battery and death. Even if it doesn’t go that far, we can see the Rihanna/Chris Brown assault and battering saga as another example.
Even these two scenarios are extreme when compared to the number of abortions, STDs, quick living rearrangement changes and emotional damage immature love causes. My advice to young adults is, you only get to be young once, take the time to enjoy it thoroughly because once you leave that stage of your life, you can’t return to it.
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