Handsome hunk, Scott "Taye" Leo Diggs who has starred in notable films such as How Stella Got Her Groove Back, The Wood & The Best Man was on the Wendy Show today. The chocolate hunk who it appears has always had issues with his beautiful chocolate skin color shared about how he was told he was different when growing up as the only black kid, in the all Caucasian neighborhood he lived and schooled in.
The good looking 41 year old who obviously moisturizes and has the good “black don’t crack” genes grew up in Rochester NY as the only chocolate skinned and wider nosed boy in the neighborhood. At five years old he came home from the Allendale Columbia School asking his mother, Marcia about his looks that he was teased about in school and his African American very light skinned mother gave him first lesson in self esteem and self love. Looking at him and his sister who are both dark skinned, it’s obvious that his father, Jeffries, must have some dominant genes, which dominated his kids’ skin coloring. He said the same things would be repeated over the years including at the School of the Arts, so he recently wrote a book titled Chocolate Me, because he felt people would benefit from his story, which really isn’t unique in the USA.
However, as is common with so many dark skinned African American men , to compensate for and distance themselves from the psychological trauma they suffered for being “black” as a child, he is married to the Caucasian beauty, Indina Menzel who he said he didn’t have love at first sight for when they met on the set of the play, Rent. She is definitely no gold digger or fair weather wife as she has done her time with him since they‘ve been together fifteen years, married for eight and they have a cute two and half year old son to show for the union. He said they initially didn’t like each other, and then they became friends and then lovers. He said so many black women have a problem with him being married to a Caucasian woman.
He said his mother said, “I knew you’d marry a white girl.” I personally don’t think black women should crucify Taye for his choice. That’s focusing on the symptoms not the cause. At least his wife loves him for him because they met when he wasn’t a star. Black women who are mad at him for his marital choice should focus their energies on building up positive black images in their sphere of influence and slowly but surely the obvious and subconscious anti-black sentiment many black people have that makes them hate themselves and their features deep down will dissipate.
Wendy also shared that she grew up as one of four African American children in her mostly Caucasian neighborhood, but she married an African American man. However, it is very different for women, since Caucasian men are not as attracted to and don’t marry black woman in the same numbers. There’s a real reason for this. The first thing is that human beings usually desire what they believe is unattainable or harder to access, which just makes them covet it more. Going back to the days of slavery, African American men, desiring talk less of marrying a Caucasian woman is the once for forbidden, would have been lynched for, but now available and very coveted forbidden fruit they now have access to, so why not especially since it is a status symbol to have a Caucasian wife and biracial kids? While black women were more than abundantly available to their Caucasian male masters because they were their property, so I guess they had their fill of African American women.
Going back to the men marrying Caucasian women issue, I have watched the life arch of so many dark skinned African American men and I see some reoccurring themes. When they are young, they are traumatized by being teased for their black features, which throws them off balance psychologically. As they get older they try to be white by marrying white or like white as in Latina, biracial or light skinned. Then over time they get older, more mature and see that they are the black people they are and always will be, so they then embrace themselves and do things to share their newly found self acceptance with others like writing books and becoming staunch NAACP members. Mmhmmm. Ha ha ha It’s amazing that there are many mechanisms in the good old USA that really does a number on the black mind and image. It’s getting better in some spheres, but as some things change, some things stay the same…
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