Steve Harvey on the Doctor Oz Show

Thrice married  and twice divorced Steve Harvey, author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment  and Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man who says, "Failure is a wonderful teacher," was on the Dr. Oz show to give women the "scoop" on men. Below are some of what he shared with my "two cents" included of course...

Why do men cheat?

The biggest reason men cheat is because so many women are willing to cheat with them. Men just have too many options and no one or nothing to make them accountable. Another reason is because many men cheat hoping their spouse won't find out and even if they do, they will take them back.

Can a man have a happy marriage without sex?  

No. As a matter of fact, both men and women can't be happy to be in a sexless marriage or relationship. I understand that sex helps in tightening the marriage bond, but if you aren't married to the person I don't believe you should be  having sex with them.

How much time does a woman in a bad relationship  lose aging wise?

In terms of aging, a woman in a bad marriage loses twelve years of her life, while a man in bad relationship ages loses 4 years of his life. Maybe this has something to do with men aging better than women, because instead of sticking with their mess, they just find a replacement and move on physically or psychologically.

What do women do wrong in relationships?

Women relinquish their power by giving up sex too fast not knowing that it is a driving force for men. I agree on this. Women need to stop sleeping with men they are not married to. That's why there are so many single parent led homes when we all know the ideal environment to raise children in is a two parent home.

How do you make a man do what you want?

To make a man become more romantic, or do what you want him to do, remind him of what he used to do that you liked. I believe this will work with some men and not for others. If a man has moved on psychologically and is just physically present, he doesn't care what the woman thinks and won't respond to her needs but if he still loves his woman and wants to be with her, this may work.

How can you make your relationship better once you become parents?

Schedule date nights together to have time for yourself. I totally agree with this especially if you have kids and you can find a safe place or person to leave them with.

When the best time to be physically intimate?

Coupling is best in the morning. If you have the time and energy to do it before heading off to work or beginning your day, then go for it.

Does nagging help motivate men?

 If your husband is not helping with chores in the house, don't nag because he'll just tune you out. Give him an ego boost instead and also have a reward system. For example, tell him, "If you help me with the chores, I'll do this for you later...

Do men like needy women?

No man wants a needy woman. Ladies, don't be needy. Have a life and keep your friends even after you are in a serious relationship or after you get married. Most women discard all their friends when they find the "one," because they believe their husband will fulfill all their needs and soon they are woefully disappointed when he doesn't fulfill their dreams and has a life outside of them, because he unlike them has kept his friends from his single days who he hangs out with  and doesn't want to go shopping with them in the mall or do other girlie things.

What do men want from women?

What a man wants from a woman are loyalty, support and sex. I believe this generally speaking, but all men are not the same or in one phase of their lives, so men often want different things at different times of their lives. A poor or insecure man may want to marry up for money, an illegal immigrant may want his citizenship papers, a man might want kids that have certain "desirable" features, a man might want a trophy wife to boost his social standing and ego etc. The list is endless and is much more than the three he shared. 

He also corrected the following misconceptions:

The "Once a cheater, always a cheater" adage is based on the fact that people stay a certain way. While most people including anyone attempting to offer you credit believes past behavior is a predictor of future behavior, he says this is not true. He says men, including him are willing to change and stop cheating if they find the right woman. I believe this, but I also believe there are many other reasons men stop cheating including when they embrace God in their lives.

"The way to a man's heart is through his stomach," is a popular adage, but he says this isn't true, because a man will put his feet up and eat to his heart and stomach's content in one woman's house and go and have his other needs met at another woman's house. I totally concur!

My two cents: As much as I agree with many of his  statements, I can't respect or take a man who has been married thrice and dispensing relationship advice seriously...