Deborah Tillman
America's New Super Nanny
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After going through 7 child care providers in 3 months with the last one leaving her son in a dark back room by himself sucking air from an empty bottle propped up against a wall, former accountant, Michelle Obama look alike and now America's New Super Nanny, Debra Tillman new that for her sanity and son's safety, it was time to forgo her lucrative career and take care of her child herself.
At the time she probably thought, "We'll there goes my life," but in a divine twist of fate, what she probably thought ended her career has now made her a star. However, as we know, a person's path isn't that straight forward. After staying home with her now 19 year old son, she became an entrepreneur opening three child care centers. Below are some tips she shared with women who asked her for help on the Wendy Williams Show.
Question: I have 10, 9, 5 and half and 2 and half year olds that I have to go shopping with. They can become unruly. What do you suggest?
1. Plan where you are going and what you are going to do ahead of time.
2. Be prepared before you go.
3. Put the youngest two in a carriage
4. Feed your kids before you leave so they are not hungry.
5. Make sure they are not tired.
6. Make sure you spend no more than 3 hours at the mall
7. Get a listening bell to call them. They should understand that when they hear the bell ring, it means come to mummy.
Question: I have 2 teen daughters who tell me anything and confide in me. How do I control how I react so I don't come across as punishing or judging them, so they don't stop sharing with me or leave things out?
1. Don't go all cuckoo crazy.
2. Think of the worst thing they can tell you and practice your reactions and facial expressions in a mirror ahead of time.
3. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion(s) and ask them what the consequences of their actions will be.
4. Let them talk out their situations and come to the answer themselves.
Question: I have a 5 year old who sets me off because she talks back at me and plays my husband against me. It's a good cop, bad cop situation and she plays us against each other. She can get her father to do anything she wants. How do I get her to listen to me?
Don't allow the good/ bad cop situation. You and your husband should work together and be on the same page or else your daughter will use the divide and conquer method against both of you. You can get in her face, but don't shout and calmly tell her what you need her to do. Also, you can use the "Calm Down Corner" that you will see on the new season of The Nanny.
I personally believe that in this society, parents are often bogged down with so many other stresses, so they don't have the energy to effectively interact with their children and give them the much need care, guidance and discipline they need. I'm glad a woman came out to say she left her job to care for her son, which I believe is how it should be, even though in a perfect world, women should be able to find a job she can do from home.
I'm looking forward to the new season of Super Nanny. I'm sure it will be very entertaining with a "Sistah" on board and running the ship!
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